Post # 1
My Dad passed away on Saturday. I haven’t even told my best friend yet. This is the first day I’ve had all to myself since he passed, and I feel like I can’t even breathe. Yeah, he was in his 80s, but he was a tank, and when he said he’d never been sick a day in his life, he really wasn’t exaggerating – I can remember twice in my life when he was laid up, once when he had stents put in and once when he had a really dreadful flu. In 30 years, that’s it.
3 weeks ago, he didn’t feel so hot. Weaker, unsteady, just not right. Had some bloodwork done and they admitted him right away. Bladder infection, dehydration and an enlarged prostate. They did chest rads just to be on the safe side. Turns out, he had cancer, but early stages. I think we were the only family not freaked out by the word “cancer”, because it wasn’t terribly far along, and the attitude was mostly that once we clear up this kidney and bladder problem, get him some prostate meds, he’ll have well over a year, maybe closer to 2. He was completely casual about the whole thing – said that he’d been a smoker for longer than most people have been alive, he wasn’t shocked by the diagnosis and was happy he’d make it to the wedding.
He gets out of the hospital a week later and has a good few days at home. And then he stopped eating and drinking. Brought him back to the hospital, and his kidneys had started shutting down. They admitted him again and that night, he has a heart attack. And all of a sudden, it all started spiraling downhill – everything started shutting down, he developed aspiration pneumonia and the next thing I knew, he was in hospice and was dying.
Medically, I get it. But emotionally, I don’t. I don’t understand how one of the physically strongest people I’ve ever met just goes downhill that fast. I don’t get how I could talk to him a week ago, and we were talking about football. I don’t know what to say to Mom, because every time the door opens, she’s waiting for him to walk through the door. I’m still half expecting someone to call and say there’s been some big mistake.
Post # 3
I am so…so sorry. (((HUGS)))
Post # 4
@MariContrary: I’m so sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
Post # 5
*Hug* I’m so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Post # 6
Big hugs OP! I’m so sorry you are going through this.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. :hugs:
Post # 9
I am so very sorry for your loss. I am thinking of you and your family!
Post # 10
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Post # 11
I’m so sorry for your loss. Even though he was such a strong man, remember we all are still just simple fragile humans. Even though his physical body has failed, his soul is still with you. I truly beleive he will be by your side, talk to him he hears you. sending you a virtual hug!
Post # 12
@MariContrary: I’m so sorry for your loss! (((((((((HUGS)))))))))) Words are no good at a time like this.
I know what it feels like when you just can’t wrap your mind around the fact that someone you love it gone. I lost someone very dear to me to cancer a few years ago and he was only 29, the same age as I am now. A part of me still thinks he’s moved to Sweden – it was his favourite place in the world. It’s silly but it helps, in a way.
I’m sure your Dad is in his favourite place in the world now too and he’ll never stop watching over you.
More ((((HUGS)))) to you!
Post # 13
I am so sorry for your loss. My father just started his chemo for his recurring esophageal cancer and I look at him as the strong man he is, but imagine him becoming weak and helpless (it is very hard for him to allow anyone to see him in that state). Your story touches me. Please let me know if I may be of any support to you.
Post # 14
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family <3 <3
Post # 15
@MariContrary: I’m so, so sorry. I can’t even say more because I’m already tearing up at work.
Post # 16
hugs! sending lots of prayers to you and your family.