(Closed) My dad passed away today.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry for your loss. I sometimes I wonder if losing someone you don’t have a great relationship is even harder, because you have to mourn the relationship you never had and always wanted. I’m glad you were able to reconnect with him.

I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Losing your father and finding out you may have a sister is a lot to take in. Give yourself time to process everything that is going on. Take it a day at a time. We are here for you.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Awww, so sorry to hear that, my condolences.  It is hard enough to lose a parent, losing one that you have such a complicated relationship brings up all types of additional feelings (DH went through something similar a few years back, it’s a different sort of mourning).  You’ll get through this though, and maybe you have a new piece of him to get to know if this girl really is your sister.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

Oh Rouquine, I’m so sorry!  My heart sank when I read your title.  As far as the possible half-sister goes, WOW.  Just try to take that one day at a time.

I’m really sorry to hear about your dad.  ๐Ÿ™

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m so sorry. Dealing with a parent’s death is so difficult, especially when the relationship hasn’t always been smooth. Take care of yourself!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Rouquine:  Pumpkin!!  I am sooooooooo sorry.  I know these things seem useless but *hug*!  I can’t imagine what you’re going through.  I went through something similar right before the wedding – my grandmother passed away before I had another chance to go visit her.  I thought about her through the years and always made excuses of why I couldn’t see her and then -poof- she was gone.  It’s a strange feeling, isn’t it?  Shit, I am crying.  If you need anything at all, please let me know.  And feel free to post as many times as you like.  Death is some weird stuff, especially when you’re estranged.

Now on to this mystery gal.  I know you don’t want to get into specifics but I would totally be intrigued by her too. Especially after just losing your dad?  Come on now, I would be all over that. 

Just breathe.  And keep writing us.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

DUDE you WANT to find out. Definitely. Of course!!! Something like that happened to me. My dad died when I was 2 but I never really knew him. I grew up yearning to find his family and connect with them… 2 years ago I began facebooking everyone that shared his last name, and I found a girl that knew him — HIS DAUGHTER! I found my sister after 25 years and it’s AWESOME! it’s so totally cool to find out something like that. 

Maybe you’ll be able to foster a relationship. You guys might be really similar!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am terribly sorry to hear this ๐Ÿ™ My heart aches for you. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m so sorry for your loss. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ MrsSanchizel SUCH a cool story!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so sorry for your loss.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My Dad’s death didn’t feel real to me at first.  He had been very ill for quite some time (years) so we knew it would happen, but when I got the call that I needed to get in the car and get to the hospital, my heart started pounding and my brain stopped working.  It was autopilot for the next three weeks.  His funeral felt like a play we were all in and when it was over, we’d go home and he’d answer the door like always. 

I’d be all for a relationship with another daughter!  It could be healing in so many ways for both of you.  You might learn things about your father that you wouldn’t otherwise know, or find that you both had similar experiences.  In the end, he might have been able to give you something that brings depth and joy to your life.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am so sorry for your loss.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

just giving hugs no advice just hugs

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper

@Rouquine:  HUGS – just wanted to say you shouldn’t feel pressure to do ANYTHING you aren’t ready for.  If your aunt wants to get something off her chest – do it in a time and space when you are ready for it (not so she can make herself feel better) – if that makes any sense.

Since you say you can’t have a relationship with this girl (if she really is your half-sister), then I’m not so sure I would bother finding out if she really is or not (at least, not until you could do anything about it – you know what I mean)?

I’m glad you were able to reunite with your father and have some (hopefully good!) memories of him.

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