My dad really wants us to have kids!

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Villa Celeste

I get where you’re coming from. Fiance and I aren’t getting married till September, but even now we still get asked from our friends and especially our family “are you going to have kids?” “do you want kids?” I think this must be because we are 32 and 34, and it seems like most people start having children in their 20’s or so. But I don’t want to try and concieve for at least a few years. I like where I’m at, and while I’m open to children, I’m doing it on my own time and going with what feels right. 

Just try and relax, any added stress will probably make the situation that much worse. Enjoy the process, and understand that these things can take time. It might be beneficial to get a check up, and make sure everything is good but it seems to me like when the timing is right, it’ll happen.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

erw4338:  ooooh age twin! And we’re getting married in August. I would like kids (maybe?) but am back in school so we probably won’t try for another 2-4 years… Again, maybe? Are you worried about the whole fertility/age thing?

Post # 4
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187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Villa Celeste

ohnatto:  Good question. To an extent yes, but at the same time I’m a firm believer in if it happens it happens. My mother was about 35 when she had me, 38 when she had my younger brother and didn’t have any problems whatsoever. It’s getting into my 40’s that makes me feel a bit more wary. I’m in good health, and try to take care of my body. So while I don’t think it would necessarily be as “easy” as it would be in my 20’s, I’m just trying to take it day by day. Who knows what’ll happen.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

MRS-K:  I am 24 but my mom has some health issues as does my fil. I am about to start a phd so everyone knows we arent trying for a while. Friends who are trying don’t get it because they haven’t done postgrad. That being said my mom would kill me if we had kids before I finished my phd. My fil has hinted once but it got shut down very quickly. My cousin who can’t have kids because they waited too long is a bit more pushy but they also know how important a phd is to me. Good luck though! Since you are trying I hope it happens soon.

Post # 8
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109 posts
Blushing bee

MRS-K:  firts at all get some flowers and take heed if it. If they keep at life, you can go on the second step and get an pet. If you handle good this little pet and it will feel good and it is a balmy companoin for You( and for your husband too:-))… You are in a right way to think about child. Don’ t worry about what is your famliy said! Nowaday most of young couple is just on first step mentioned above!;-)

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  Whiteway.
  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  Whiteway.
Post # 10
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Blushing bee

:-))) So You are in good way! Your father already has two daughter. So, I don’ t know why is he feel that absence…?

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  Whiteway.
Post # 11
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Blushing bee

MRS-K:  …maybe coused by Your mother absence…

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  Whiteway.
Post # 13
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6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

MRS-K:  i’m 32 and we have been actively trying since we got married in october.  my mom has been asking me for grandkids since i was in my early 20’s.  talk about pressure.

sorry to hear about your mom.  i lost my dad a few years ago.

Post # 14
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

MRS-K:  I cannot believe you had such a deeply personal conversation with a total stranger who asked you very nosy, inappropriate questions.  When she asked when you were going to give your Dad grandkids, you should have asked to see the menu or told her you weren’t ready to order yet.  She needed a little reminder that she was there to serve you, not interrogate you about your personal life. 

Its not your job or responsibility to provide your Dad with grandchildren.  If you want kids and want them now, that’s one thing but if you’re doing it out of guilt or a feeling that you owe this to your father, stop – you don’t.  He has kids – you and your sister.

I’m sorry about your Mom. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

MRS-K:  You should tell you Dad, nicely, to back off.  He’s overstepping. 

You don’t need kids to have a fulfilling life.  

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