(Closed) My dad stole my wedding date!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

OMG, I never thought I would read that title! You poor thing! Is there nothing he can do? Push it a week with the same venue and other vendors?  

You poor thing! {{{{}}}}

Post # 4
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I’m so sorry, that seems terrible.  Is there anything else you can do?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Awe I am sorry! That sucks!!!!!

I agree it is your day and you definitely should NOT have to share it with your DAD!

Have you talked to him and told him that it is important for him and his family to be there and ask if he would reschedule as you have done more planning and because it is so far in advance he could probably move the date with his venue and photog with no fee?????

Post # 6
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271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

There is no way he can’t move his date!?! Wow, that might be the most devastating thing I’ve read…I can’t imagine how ticked off/hurt I would be.

Post # 7
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2682 posts
Sugar bee

Im so sorry to hear that!  Is there any way any of his deposits can be put toward another date?  Most places will let you do that if its within a certain amount of time and far enough away (which since its almost a year away I would think they would allow it!)  Were you planning on your dad being at your wedding?  What has he said about it?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

If your dad is not cancelling the wedding, just changing the date then he should be able to keep his deposits.  Talk, calmly with him and his fiance.  Show them all work and items you’ve done and see if they can postpone the wedding by a week or two, or atleast to the following day.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

That really sucks about your dad.  Obviously he’s not willing to change the rift in your relationship if he’s acting like this.  I hope you get something figured out.  You’re right, whoever is there loves and supports you and that’s all that matters.  Good luck!

Post # 11
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774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Aw, I’m so sorry to hear that sweetie. Of all people, the one you would not want to battle over your day is one of your parents.

I think you should still have your wedding though. it depends on how important it is to have your dad and that part of the family that might not make it there. It will all be ok in the end!

(((((BIG BEE HUGS)))))

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

OH NO! Can either of you shift something around a little bit? You still got time…deposits are usually still good (especially this far in advance) for a date exchange. I bet a vendor would take pity on you and help you out.

Since you “officially” had the date first by showing him the invitation, I think it’d be right of him to fix it by changing HIS date. How could he not remember?!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I thought I would be posting on this exact same situation! I’m so sorry this happened to you. My dad is also getting married and they kept being vague about the date and they would totally be the type to get married on my wedding day! Luckily they decided to wait until August 2010, but I sort of know how difficult this can be! I don’t like talking wedding with them (“well OUR wedding will be like this, but its okay if YOU do that” baloney!). I too thought (when reading your post), how could you not remember your daughter’s wedding date and then I remembered my dad.

Hang in there. I’m sure you can get this sorted out.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Don’t call it off! Don’t let one bad apple ruin this for you.  I remember how hurt I was as a child when my dad remarried without me there.  He saw it as his second marriage so he didn’t need a huge wedding while I saw it as him getting a new step daughter and forgetting about me.  He must be foregetting how important this day is to YOU and how he’s already gotten his chance.  You are your his family’s granddaughter, cousin & niece – most of them have seen him say I DO, now its their turn to see you!

Forget your father’s child like behavior and stick with your date, send out your invitations and be glad to be surrounded by your family members who love you and want to share this day with you.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery

oh my goodness you poor girl!! I can’t believe he won’t compromise..what is wrong with him….It seems like he’s trying to get attention or something..he is supposed to support you at your wedding not have his own on the same day!!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i’m so sorry! don’t call it off! that’s ridiculous of him! I’m sure you two can work this out some how! have you talked to his fiance?

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