(Closed) My dad wants me to commute 60 miles to summer school

posted 6 years ago in College
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Then why don’t you find a place to rent?  Is he the one paying for your rent and gas?  I guess he has a say then, but I would just pay the $400 myself if those were my options.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

unless you can afford your own rent, you’ve got to do what he says.  I’d get some books on tape and be thankful I had somewhere to sleep!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Your dad does not have to pay rent for you. No one, not even your parents, are required to pay for your living expenses once you are an adult. You will have to commute the 60 miles to summer school or pay for your own place. He’s already giving you a free place to live. Live in your car if you really would rather do that. 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with PP. Your dad isn’t responsible for your rent, so, if he doesn’t want to pay it, you’ll have to commute. Honestly, 60 miles isn’t that awful of a commute. I drove an hour and fifteen minutes to class my first year of college. It wasn’t ideal, but it was doable. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

The way I see it is, it’s only a month.  Many hard working people commute 1 1/2 hours, or more, each day and it’s part of their every day life.  It’s not the most ideal situation, but beings you can not afford to pay the rent, and your dad is graciously helping you out, I would living w/ him for the month is the right thing to do.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

@JsDragonfly:  Wow I missed that it was only for a month! Suck it up, OP! 😛

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

It’s a month – you’ll live.  If you can’t afford rent, you should be grateful he’s providing you with a free place to stay.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@louanneandmike:  I’m sorry…..I don’t get your point. You can’t afford rent, so you have to live with your father. Do you expect him to pay for your rent to make things more convenient for you? Isn’t it enough that you can live with him rent free when you’re an adult?? I was never welcome to live with my parents as an adult, even if I paid them rent.

My last 2 semesters of college I had to commute 2 1/2 hours each way because I was getting divorced and had to move in with my sister in Long Island (I’m still here)

And I was working 30 hours a week too–and contributing to household bills

It never occurred to me to expect anyone to pay rent so I could live more conveniently

 

I’m assuming that since you’re on this site you’re engaged and planning a marriage, don’t you think your attitude is a little childish for someone in your stage in life?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I commuted an hour each way for school for 4 years. I don’t see the big deal. Suck it up and drive!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Lets look on the bright side! How generous of your dad to offer to let you live with him! 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, it really isn’t that bad. My FI had to commute over an hour for his whole last semester. He complained about it SO much before he did it, but then once he got into the routine it didn’t bother him. And for the last couple years, his work commute is just as long. A friend of mine commutes two hours in one direction to get to her job, and then two hours back home. Every single day. You only have to commute for a month. And then if you’re lucky, you’ll find a job that you don’t have to drive as far.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

If you got a PT job, you could definitely afford $400 a month.  And with all the time you’ll save from not commuting, you’ll have time to work. 🙂  If you’re not willing to pay your own rent, then you just have to suck it up.  It’s only a month afterall.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My commute was 1 hour (or more) each day to university, and my commute to work can be over an hour depending on when I start/how bad traffic is that day/if there’s any sort of bad weather (no one in my city can drive if it’s rained or snowed or if it’s foggy… hell they have a hard enough time driving in ideal conditions!). I vote you suck it up, try recording some of your lectures/read your textbooks out loud and record yourself and listen to that in the car. It’s only for one month.

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