Post # 1
(wrote this in wrong board)
My sister has a new Bf and they have been ldr for apx 3 months, I really like the guy, his nice.
Currently trying to make a career out of esports.
anyway so 4 days to my wedding my sister makes a passing comment about how he would of loved to come. (He is from America and we are in Australia)
So I invite him, because it would be awesome to have him there and he can house sit my OWN house while im away on my honeymoon.
My dad flips out because he is mad that he doesnt have a high enough paying job, or high enough education, demands my sister break up with him, yells at me for supporting there relationship, and calls me all the names under the sun. THEN forbids him from attending the ceremony, wedding and staying at MY OWN house.
THEN blames me for doing this to HIM 4 days before the wedding and calls me selfish.
I just can’t deal.
Post # 3
your father might just be a bit emotional because his baby girl is getting married, dads show emotion in funny ways sometimes. i’m pretty sure that no matter who shows up at your wedding you dad will be 100% focused on you, if you want to give your sister a plus one then by all means do – i just know everything will work out just fine <3
Post # 4
@Cheekyduck: Ugh that’s so frustrating. If I was you I would let him come, and just tune out the ranting name calling etc. I’ve gotten used to just zoning out and going to “brideland”
Post # 5
Is he frequently a little crazy? It’s four days out, WAY too late for your sister’s BF to cancel his ticket!
Post # 6
Good news! It’s your wedding and your house. You can do whatever you want. I’m sorry though, what a pain. It’s really hard when our parents act like children, mine totally do this sometimes do. I really feel for both you and your sister in this. You really do just have to treat it like a child’s temper tantrum and ignore it/maintain the boundaries.
*hugs* Good luck!
Post # 7
@mrsgroomzilla: I wish that was it. I think he is just getting old.
To be honest i have people i HATE. like really hate comming that he has invited.
and people who i have never met.
@MsChandler: I wish i could just invite him, but my dad thinks its HIS reception now, and has refused to show up if my sister gets a +1
Post # 8
Huh? I’m confused… 4 days to the wedding and you invited him and expect that he’ll be able to fly from America to Austrailia with 4 days notice?
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site
Then let him make an ass of himself over something so stupid. It’s your wedding.
Post # 10
@Cheekyduck: Eh TBH I would do it anyway. I think he needs a wake up call. He should be ashamed of himself for even putting you in the position of having to choose!
Post # 11
@Mrs.LemonDrop: I thought it was my wedding too, i quickly found out it wasn’t.
I’m thinking after my honeymoon i will have a small party with just close friends and my sister can have her +1
My Sister is 22 by the way, and i’m pushing… lets just say im a bit older.
We are not children. very, very frustrating. was crying on the phone to my mother in law today she told me to breath, and it will work out.
but i do think my dad made the wrong decision, making distance between us, and juding someone on how they make money.
Post # 12
Omg, he actually calls you selfish because of that?
Well it is your wedding and you have every right to invite anyone you want.
Don’t let this negativity get under your skin, if you can’t deal with your father right know, just ask a family member to try and calm things out.
Post # 13
@pinkshoes: no no, He wanted to come, and was helping my sister who is my MOH help plan parts of the wedding with her.
My sister told me yesterday of his great interest, but said it would be hard and didnt want to stress me.
I told her having him (because he is a wonderful person) is no stress and i made the arrangements for an extra seat, told him and he started to pack and purchase tickets.
but, Yes it was short notice to inform my dad that my sister will be using her +1
the reason i told him was so it wouldnt be a shock and would give him a chance to meet my sisters bf.
the reaction i got was not what i expected.
even if it was months ago, the result would be the same.
He keeps saying things like, the guy will kill etc. thingsto my sister, because he is from another country. just crazy stuff. and it will be my fault.
Keep in mind they meet in real life, but have maintained through the internet.
Post # 14
Let him come anyway.
You’re dad’s just stressed from all the pressure, and his little girl is getting married in 4 days! He snapped.
Post # 15
@Cheekyduck: Oh my goodness, that’s crazy!! Let the poor guy come still. Your dad can deal with it. I’m sure he wouldn’t miss your wedding over this.
Post # 16
@Cheekyduck: What did you decide to do? I think the gesture on behalf of her boyfriend (booking flights and flying over with 4 days notice) is just so beautiul and sweet.