(Closed) My day has become hers, copy cat friend.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Did she ever talk about her “wedding” before she got engaged? Like have ideas and then change them to things and ideas you are having?

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s an unfortuante situation to be in and you would think every bride would want their wedding to be special and unique. The good thing for you is that your wedding is first so if you have a similar guest list, it may be obvious that she mimicked your wedding. Having said that, even if colours, flowers and decor are similar, they will never be exactly the same. It is unique because it is YOUR wedding. I suggest that if you continue to discuss wedding plans with her, to limit the amount of information you share and maybe suggest other ideas to help her plan the wedding. Maybe she does not know where to go to find her own inspiration. The fact that she is copying your ideas is actually a compliment! I wouldn’t let it bother you that much.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Actually everyone will assume she copied you so she will be the one looking bad.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@bricon:  That is exactly what I would think if I attended both weddings.

OP, since there is nothing you can do, try to look at it as a form of flattery? And maybe keep the rest of your details on the down low πŸ™‚ Just say that you want it to “be a surprise” for the guests. I’m sorry πŸ™

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sometimes, this can be seen as flattering. If it annoys you, I would just stop telling her about your wedding.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Honestly? I would make up a bunch of outlandish stuff you’d never do, and share away. But I’m evil like that. LOL

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

At least your wedding is first! I’d be more worried if she scheduled hers two weeks BEFORE yours.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Like the others said, both of your weddings will be unique in their own way regardless of her copyright infringements! Take it as a compliment though, she loved your ideas enough to want to emulate them! πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think you’re being silly for feeling hijacked.  I’m sure you put a lot of thought and effort into planning your special day and having someone copy it, cheapens all the hard work that you put into your own event.

I’ve been in your shoes: first a my friend’s fiance (now wife) blatantly copied my wedding invitations (and denied it) and after that incident another friend who had gotten engaged soon after my wedding copied my entire wedding – from my theme, to the origami, to the hair and make up, to her bridal shower, personalized website and wedding cake – she copied everything!  It is frustrating to have someone steal your creativity and on top of it all deny that they copied and then turn around and act all snotty about it.  Trust me, I’ve been there twice and it’s certainly no fun and unfortunately there’s really not much you can do.  However, try your best to take it as a complement no matter how annoying and frustrating it can be and don’t let these cheap immitation/uncreative brides (or so-called friend) get under your skin and ruin an otherwise happy occassion.  Good luck and happy planning πŸ™‚  

 

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

it is a frustrating feeling, at least its not 2 weeks before yours! That would be worse, then it would look like you had copied her…..

My cousin did that to me πŸ™  everything we said we wanted to do they decided they were going to do, then after we had our date picked they picked 2 weeks before (and sent a tacky emial save the date to family and friends a year before, like he was trying to beat us to it) …… I was like really?!?  My feelings were hurt, when i told them my feeling were hurt that they would pick 2 weeks before and do the same thing we were planning on doing he told me I was being a bridzilla and that it was the only time his “professor friends” could go.  I was like well April is acutally a bad time for “professor friends” that right before exams and way after spring break….. We  have not talked since, that was a year ago. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

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Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs.Ebers:  I totally went through this with my maid of honor!!! She literally took every one of my ideas and made them crappy!! It was so frustrating because she would constantly talk about her wedding and never asked about mine. She even insisted on trying on a wedding dress during the first time I was trying on dresses, even though I went with her previously to watch her try dresses on! In the end, I had to end our friendship because it was too much for me to handle, and I was depressed having her in my life. I totally understand what you are going through! You are not overreacting. It is not flattering. It is a huge annoyance and you feel like all of your ideas are being taken!!

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