- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Now I know that I should always look past the negitive and I should realize that all that is important after my big day is that I am now married to the man I love but there are some parts that I can’t forget about.
This is why I turn to you ladies, for your support and I just need a place to vent and get all of this out and hopefully this will get it out of my mind.
My MOH. I thought picking my fiance’s sister as my MOH was going to be perfect. She is very creative, assertive and helpful and we were close. Things were ok in the beginning, but then she was asked to be a BM in another wedding. After that most of her focus went to that wedding. She said she wanted to plan my bridal shower and bacholette party, but her mom ended up doing most of the work for both parties. Although they were fun, at the end of each I was a little dissapointed. What really bothered me was that I heard about her friends party’s (they sounded awesome) and I guess I was just hurt that she didn’t put the same effort into mine. On the big day she wasnt really there for me either, she was all about herself. The icing on the cake, when she signed her name on our marriege license as a witness she signed so big that she signed OVER my signature!! REALLY?
My MIL. OMG. I am closer to her then my own mom but I am soo glad that wedding planning is over. Most of the time when I told her about what I like, or what I want to do she would basically disagree and tell me I shouldnt do that. All the time I heard, “at my wedding we did this” or ‘thats not traditional.” (her wedding was over 35 years ago!) I could handle the comments but she would go behind my back to change things. From flowers to decorations.
The first look. I was REALLY excited about this. Leading up to it tho, my bridal party/MIL thought they HAD to be there. I would have been ok if they had been watching from afar but the were right there and talking to each other the whole time.
Soo aside from these things my day was perfect, I think of the moments that were amazing, (during the ceremony when reading our vows).
If you can, hire a day of coordinator. I know many will disagree with this, but unless you have a friend/family member you completly trust with this it will help. If I had someone I could have told what I want done and she/he was there to make sure it happened (while making sure a MIL does not chang it) and making sure people were in the right places.
I trusted my MOH and MIL and they unfortunately didnt come through and I ended up dissappointed.
Thank you for reading this!! I just needed to vent and it feels better to write it out and get it out of my mind!