My DIY Couples Shower Invite – NEED FEEDBACK

posted 2 years ago in DIY
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would just put that the couple is registered at BB&B. No mention of money. Maybe mention it verbally to someone who is asking what type of gift the couple would prefer off the registry. (I know my FMIL has had some of her friends ask if we would rather get kitchen or bath items)

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

That wouldn’t bother me, I would always give a couple cash anyways!  They aren’t asking for it so it should be ok IMHO

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

NOOOOOOO. Who wants to go to a shower and watch someone open an envelope of cash?? What is the bride supposed to do, announce how much each couple got them? 

Anything you do will reflect on the bride and groom, whether they are aware of it or not. Asking for money is tacky.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Yikes — I agree with first PP — please don’t mention money.  That said, I disagree with second PP — I NEVER give a couple cash at a shower.  I always bring a gift.  If they want cash instead, they’re welcome to return my gift.

I know you’re trying to be nice, but “not expected, but appreciated” + the monetary mention IS gift grabby.  A simple “The couple is registered at BB&B” would do, since people don’t need to be told what’s appropriate to bring to a shower.  You are, of course, welcome to have a “kitchen” or “linens” shower, which would encourage people to bring gifts from a certain category.  Otherwise, nice invite!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

CallMeMrsG:  It sounds like the bride is the gift grabby/tacky one — but you’ve got great instincts!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Ugh just skip the cash part. 

Post # 10
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Newbee

I’m not very etiquette savvy and I dont know if this is the final mock-up, but I just wanted to say that September 28th is a Sunday not a Saturday this year! Also super cute invite!

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I gotta agree.  The point of a shower is to give gifts for the home.  Or it can be themed – stock the bar, etc.  I’d roll my eyes at a suggestion for cash, and I’m not very uptight / etiquettey at all.

Love the design though – super cute!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’d be ok with this.  I usually hate any mentions of “money”, but you get a free pass because 1) I don’t think you’re sitting in a circle opening gifts at a couples shower, 2) FSIL is not asking for herself 3) I don’t feel like FSIL would spit on my physical gift the way I do with “Monetary gifts preferred”.  I usually don’t give money at showers and it’s nice to know it’d be an option here.    

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

CallMeMrsG:  I would mention where the couple is registered, but not mention (in any way) them wanting cash over gifts. Just not going to go over well with some people. Letting people know where they’re registered will be a big help (everyone wants to bring something), but outright suggesting or asking for money is tacky. Although, yes, I almost always give money to a couple (esp if I know they were living together before marriage and they have most everything they need). Money is money, who doesn’t like it.

Btw… Great invite. you did a really nice job putting it together, very artistic!

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