My doctor says intercourse isn't safe…

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@As_You_Wish: Hey lady! It’s good to hear from you! I find this very interesting! I haven’t been told by my doctor (yet) not to, I go see him on Tuesday. I am definitely going to ask him about it. However, my DH has not even so much as touched me since finding out I am pregnant again. (It’s been almost two weeks, but who’s counting? lol) He said no sexy times until it is ‘safe’. I don’t think he was thinking 19 weeks though! Yikes! I am commenting so I can come back to read others’ response!  

Post # 4
3007 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I guess I could see it….If sex near your due date can help bring about labor (contractions) wouldn’t it make sense that the same spasms which occur during orgasm could cause a miscarriage?? Interesting idea. Good luck with TTC!

Post # 5
863 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My family doctor said the same thing, and I was a low risk pregnancy. In particular, she advised to avoid it in the first trimester. 

Post # 6
3677 posts
Sugar bee

I would ask him to give me the references so that I could look up the studies.

Post # 7
5445 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m not familiar with this research but if there’s a chance it would help, it’s worth it isn’t it? I promise you it’s possible to go without sex for that long, or even longer, especially for such an important reason. I’m not familiar with your history but if you’ve had repeat miscarriages I’m sure you want to do all that’s in your power to prevent that. Good luck with your pregnancy!

Post # 8
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@KCKnd2:  +1  


and then make sure those articles are blind, controlled with a large number of participants. often journals will publish articles that aren’t great – like a dr (they have to contribute tresearch to maintain registration) may just write a quick case study of say 3 patients who miscarried sometime after sex. That wouldn’t be very convincing. 

Post # 9
8675 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’d want to see multiple studies before I believe this.

Post # 10
8818 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m not sure I buy this, my doctor hasn’t said this. She did however warn that sometimes sex in early pregnancy can cause spotting and if the spotting worried me to avoid it for a little bit. But otherwise I don’t see how sex can hurt.

Post # 11
662 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Geeze, I’ve never heard this before, but since finding out we were pregnant, my husband has turned down all of my begging and pleading for sex.  lol……and it’s not because he’s online reading current findings and studies on sex and pregnancy…..he keeps saying, “My son is in there!!”.  And yes, we just found out the sex of the baby, so it’s been THAT long since we’ve had sex!!!!

Post # 12
1230 posts
Bumble bee

@As_You_Wish:  I also had 3 miscarriages after my first pregnancy, we went on to have another 2 babies. I avoided sex for the first 20 weeks, when the preganancy was settled and I felt the baby. There are other things you can do keep your DH happy.

Post # 13
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@jpalm13:  I don’t think it’s the contractions that bring on labour at the end of pregnancy, I believe it’s the prostaglandins in sperm that help to ripen the cervix… At least that’s what they told us at our antenatal class last week.


@As_You_Wish:  congrats on your pregnancy, I’ve seen your story on here over the last months and have fingers and toes crossed for you! I have never heard of such a long abstinence, but have never been in your position either. I’d be looking for more evidence, myself, because I think a happy and healthy relationship between husband and wife is really important during pregnancy, and sex is one part of that. But I also understand not wanting to do anything to jeopardise this either. All the best!

Post # 15
42076 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@beyblade1120:  I too would ask to see the studies.

Do remember though that he said he doesn’t recommend intercourse. he didn’t say no sex.

You can still keep hubby happy with blow jobs, hand jobs etc etc .

Post # 16
1996 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d talk to an ob about this & look into these “studies”. Seems like there’s a lot of studies out there that don’t mean much. 

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