Post # 1
In a nutshell: my dog was off lead, and ran over and started barking at the neighbors dogs. I don’t know if they pulled their dog out of the way (not giving my dog the opportunity to attack) but I ultimately grabbed my dog and they took their dogs inside. I secured my dog and they finally came back out – and I went over and profusely apologized (and made an idiotic comment about how I think my dog was trying to play)… but I feel like it’s isn’t enough. Should I do something else? Or is an apology sufficient?
More details: my dog is much larger than the neighbors dogs. Mine is 65 pounds, they have 2 furry dogs – one is 30 pounds and the other is about 15-20. It was the smaller one that was out front and the one my dog bee-lined for. There was a 3rd small dog involved too – one of the neighbor’s family members pet. All of their 3 dogs were on a lead.
My dog was off leash (totally our fault – will NOT happen again). We were leaving the house and taking the dog with us. DH was taking her to put her in the car. At the same time, the neighbors were leaving and taking their (leashed) dogs to their car.
We share a driveway and the houses are pretty close to each other (maybe 20-30 feet at most).
I noticed our dog’s attention honed in at the neighbors house and realized what was happening and called our dog back. She paused once, moved closer to the other dogs, paused again, and then went running towards the other dogs. It took me more time than I’d care to admit to react – but I ran over there and grabbed her away from the other dogs… apologizing the whole time (and then later).
Again, there was no biting involved – but we were both pretty shaken up about it (me and the neighbor).
Part of me wants to bake cookies with an “I’m sorry” note…. and then the other part of me thinks no need to make a bigger deal about it as it is. I’m sure if I asked DH he’d say to forget about it.
We don’t have a close relationship with them – other than the casual wave hello/goodbye, know their names.
ETA: The dog will NOT be off lead again when out front.
Post # 3
I’d probably bake them some cookies and leave a note saying “My fault they were off leash, won’t happen again, sorry to bother you.” Play it safe with neighbors.
Post # 4
Sounds like no one was hurt, so that’s a good thing.
I’d probably write a card or something (If you wanted to include baked goods, that’d be kind, but I don’t think it’s necessary) and I’d explain that you are incredibly sorry and the situation has been corrected and will not happen again, and that you just want to continue being civil neighbors.
They may be angry (or afraid), but I think after the initial situation wears off, they’ll realize that no one was hurt and you made a genuine mistake and are attempting to make up for it.
Post # 5
Apologise again and give them the cookies/whatever, and hope and pray it doesn’t happen again. Some of my neighbors’ dogs have been required to be put down by the City for less.
Post # 6
No actual damage done, you know now that your dog probably shouldn’t be off the leash again if there is a chance the neighbors will have their pets out so I think your apology was enough.
Post # 7
@Peacockfeather: I sincerely doubt a dog has been put down for doing LESS than barking at another dog.
Post # 8
It was an accident and you already apologized profusely. No need to suck up to them. Did they still seem pissed about it?
Post # 9
@moonadea: Dogs in my area who act that agressively toward another animal or person more than once are subject to the owners being charged, the dog being seized, or the dog being required to be euthanized. They have a serious problem with hunting dogs killing other pets and attacking children out of the blue.
If her dog acted aggressively enough that she thinks it may have attacked theirs and that she needs to apologize, she plain needs to be more careful.
Post # 10
@texasrandi: they seemed annoyed/pissed but not flaming angry. We don’t see them very often, and I’m certain they know I felt bad about it.
When we first got the dog (almost a year ago), the neighbor tried to approach it and feed it some treats (through a fence – when we were not home) and my dog was unfriendly towards him and I know he considers the dog ‘mean’ – since the dog has never taken a liking to him.
@Peacockfeather: My dog had enough time that IF she wanted to attack the dogs, she easily could have. Again, we take full responsibility, realizing she should have never been off lead. It was a major wake up call and will NOT happen again.
Post # 11
@oracle: Wasn’t blaming you in the least, hun, I didn’t mean to offend you if I did. My dog’s a big half lab/half shepherd and when she was young she chased a few kids on their bikes once. My mom gave her a pretty nasty talking to and crated her up for a couple of days and she was only let out on a leash. She learned her lesson pretty quick, the silly thing. Everybody makes mistakes, and animals are unpredictable anyway, but you don’t want your neighbors to always be edgy or afraid of their dogs being around yours since they’ll probably still be kickin’ around for a while!
Post # 12
About 5 minutes ago as I was waiting for the security gate to open to my garage, I watched a giant German Shepard go after a guy walking on the other side of the street. My lovely neighbors opened their security gate and the dog made a beeline for the guy. Luckily the guy was able to put his backpack between himself and the jaws of the dog. And after about 5 attempts to bite the guy, my neighbor finally decided to send her armed guard over to get her dog. What does my neighbor say to the poor guy walking home??? She screamed at him for “walking” in her neighborhood.
I reminded myself that I am living in the murder capital of Central America and there are crazy street dogs everywhere.
So you live in the US, you apologized which seems like enough since your dog didn’t bite the other dog. If you lived where I am, the other dog owner would be apologizing to you.
Post # 13
They’re DOGS. It is in their nature to do exactly whatshe did. As long as she didn’t actually bite them, I think you’re fine.
Post # 14
Eh. Dogs are unpredictable and any dog owner should understand that sometimes these things happen. Since no one was hurt and you promptly controlled your dog, it should be fine with just an apology. Next time you see them, you may apologize again and let them know your dog will be on a leash from now on. Anything else would be be a bit too much IMO.
ETA: My city has leash laws, but I frequently encounter dogs that are off leash and out of control. There have been many times that a strange dog has approached my dog aggressively and the other owner has given ME the stink eye because my dog also got worked up. The fact that you controlled your dog and apologized is much more than a lot of people do.
Post # 15
@msfahrenheit: Thanks for what you wrote. I have the tendancy to be a bit over the top about things – and I think what you suggested is exactly what I’ll do (the next time I see them, apologize again, and mention that she’ll never be outside unleashed).
Post # 16
I’ve had problems with my dog being less than friendly towards neighborhood dogs as well, so I know how embarrassing it is. But honestly, if no one was hurt then an apology is definitely enough. I wouldn’t really bother baking cookies, and I would skip the note (I wouldn’t want to admit fault in writing). Also, I would think that other dog owners would be a little understanding. Dogs can be unpredictable, and other dog owners should be well aware that s*** happens. If their dog wasn’t injured, I really don’t understand what they could be pissed about.