Post # 1
Hey Charleston Bees,
I have been looking ALL OVER for “the” venue and I have finally found that in the Old Exchange Building. (If you havent seen it, take a look its gorgeous!) Well, upon telling my family that I have chosen the Old Exchange, I have gotten not so favorable opinions. I am an African-American bride and I have been told that due to the past of the Old Exchange Building (slave history) I risk offending my guests. I understand the history of the building and accept it because it was the past. I love this building..but I also don’t want to offend my guests. 🙁
What should I do!?! Go with my dream venue or consider the feelings of my guests? I’m so torn.
Post # 3
i think id talk to people about it.
rather than focussing on the negative history and avoiding the place, could you maybe emphasise to people that it shows hwo things have changed – that it is fantastic hwo people no longer are considered more or less equal due to the colour of their skin, and that you can proudly walk in as an equal to anyone else on gods green earth?
as in, by looking at the previous negative hisotry and the present day you can see how far the US ahs come? that sort of thing. People fought and won freedom and equality, and surely by using the places where this mistreatment happened it highlights that this history/awfulness is done with?
or is that an ignorant comment, if so i apologise. please no one flame me
Post # 4
@neyshayjosh: I think if the AFRICAN-AMERICAN BRIDE is not offended by having her own wedding in that place, then her guests shouldn’t be either. After all, are they going to think the groom chose the venue? Please…
(not that grooms never ever have a say.. but.. come on.. usually they don’t care as much as we do!)
Post # 5
@newname_99: not ignorant at all! I needed honest opinions!
Post # 6
@neyshayjosh: Maybe this is just me but I wouldn’t worry about it. I’m all for rethinking history and transforming places of former hardship into something that represents happiness. It doesn’t mean you have to forget the history of the building but I wouldn’t let it define you. If people arranged the way they lived their lives around what place/tradition/words used to represent then we’d never get anything done. The fact is that slave history is everywhere, even in historic buildings in DC and Philidelphia where I’m sure African-American brides have held weddings. If it doesn’t bother you then do it, it’s your day.
Post # 7
The world is too politically correct. A bear can’t fart in the woods without offending someone.
I’d keep your venue.
Post # 8
I think it depends on how much things have change there. I know there was some issue recently in sc with the confederate flag on the Capitol building, so while it would different in an rea that has moved on totally, I guess I would take into consideration the context.
If people you love will be offended, that would matter to me. If not, it’s your call.
Post # 9
@neyshayjosh: I agree with @Tinatiny1: If people you love will be offended, that would
matter to me.
@neyshayjosh: I did try to PM you with some places that are similar in style, and likely in budget, but both FireFox and GoogleChrome are not liking my using WB PMs. If you’d like to try to PM me, with the # of guests you expect and your general budget range for a venue, I can send you ideas of places I found that are similar.
Post # 10
@neyshayjosh: I’m also African-American and I would go for it. If you stayed off of every property that has ties to slavery then you wouldnt go many places. I would book the venue I love.
Post # 11
Here’s my 2 cents. The simple fact that it could be a concern of your guest, I would change my venue if possible.
Post # 12
Half of my people are still busting my balls about almost going with the Confederate Home.. lol
I didn’t know the history of the Old Exchange pertaining to slavery but I’m pretty sure there are tons of worse places in Charleston. It’s a beautiful city with a lot of ugly history but also a lot of great history. Maybe do a little research on the good things that have happened in that building so your family will be more objective.
I was looking at a building that I knew was supposed to be haunted but if I chose it I wouldn’t have told anyone. My FIs family is really superstitious and I know they wouldn’t have been able to get past the idea. Perceptive isn’t an easy thing to shake.
Post # 13
If you’re worried about this you need to go with a modern building with no history and probably not in Charleston, SC. I say that because I think almost any historical building in the city is going to have some slavery past. This building has so much history outside of slavery. If memory serves me correctly most of the wall hangings in the area where your guests will probably be pertain to the revolutionary war and George Washington.