Post # 1
Here is my dress!
I really love it, but I am thinking about modifying it.
Here are my issues…
IF I LEAVE IT AS IS:
(+) I won’t have to find a cover up for church!
(+) Parents will be super happy I’m more covered/modest
(-) I feel a tiny bit plain/old/matronly in it? I was hoping to feel a little more flirty/fun/pretty and the style is a little more elegant/classy
(-) I get this feeling that my fiance won’t like the top that much because he said once before that he always imagined me in a strapless. He’s the type who would probably say something like “what are those little dangly things coming off your shoulders, they look like shoulder pads with streamers” (Though, he keeps telling me that he is sure I will look beautiful in my dress, even if he hasn’t seen it!)
IF I MODIFY THE NECKLINE TO STRAPLESS
(+) I think I’d feel prettier and more ‘stunning’ to my fiance, esp cuz he’s never seen me in strapless *anything*
(-) Not sure how it would look in the end after alterations – don’t want to mess it up
(-) I’d have to find a way to cover up for the church
(-) Of course I’d have to deal with parents who would think I’m showing too much skin if I decided to take off the cover-up at the reception.
Here are some pictures:
A) Me with the dress on in the store, with low heels
B) Me trying it on again at home, with much higher heels (looks so much better)
C) Me trying it on with a modified neckline.
SO BEES, Should I keep it AS IS or should I have the neckline altered?
Thank you so much!
Post # 3
It looks nice altered, go for it! I don’t think a seamstress will mess it up.
Post # 4
Poll? It’s a hard decision but I love it as is.
Post # 5
Thanks for your input!! I added a poll.
Post # 6
I like it much more the way it is, looks great on you!
Post # 7
It’s totally up to you, of course, but I would keep it as is. I think the top is what makes this dress. Once you alter the neckline, it looks like a lot of other dresses. I’m sure it would look beautiful altered but I feel it kind of loses something. I don’t think it’s matronly at all with the low V.
Do YOU like the original neckline?
Post # 8
The way it’s right now, I think it’s a little more special than if you were to make it into a strapless dress. Also, you don’t want to have to deal with parental drama for your wedding and those shoulder straps will look nicer than any jacket you might find to cover up.
Why don’t you get a strapless dress for your honeymoon!
Post # 9
I normally prefer strapless but the dress is beautiful the way it is! I think what it comes down to is what makes you feel the most confident. I think you should follow your heart and pick the style that you envision yourself walking down the aisle in. The strapless version just shows your shoulders, I mean you dont have cleavage hanging out of it, maybe you could talk to your parents and reason with them a little? But the dress as-is is simply stunning. 🙂
Post # 10
Personally, I like the elegant look of the straps as they are (I’ve been eyeing up this dress for my own wedding, so I’m a little biased). But if that’s not the look you’re going for, I think a seamstress could provide some great input on converting the dress to strapless.
Post # 11
Leave it! Buy a strapless dress to wear for your hubby on your honeymoon : )
Post # 12
@NJmeetsBX: You have a good point about the top ‘making’ the dress… it is very unique! As for me liking the original neckline, I do like it! I like it altered too though, and I get this feeling that the FI will like the strapless better… I am very indecisive.
Post # 13
I say alter the back maybe into a deep V and maybe the front a bit. Strapless looks great too! It is your day and if you want to show some skin, go for it! you are a grown woman getting married and you do not want to be regretting not being “flirty” like you said you want to feel:) I understand the whole not wanting to upset the parents but they all had their time to choose what they wanted I think. Now it’s yours!
I am thinking on altering mine bc FI loved me in a old dress I didn’t end up keeping. But he absolutely loved it on me. Also, I love the material and fit of mine, the strapless version was blah to me. I have the one shoulder VW from DB!:) I do love strapless! LOL
Post # 14
Obviously the most important question is what option YOU feel most beautiful with. You definitely want to feel like a million bucks on your day.
My opinion is swayed towards the strapless. This is YOUR day, but at the same time, if FI never gets to see you in anything strapless and this will be a treat for him, go for it! Make this day special for him! But at the same time, I bet he will think you look breath-taking either way. And can I just say, you rock that dress WAY better than the model! You should show off those shoulders!
And as far as the church cover-up, find something cheap that will do the trick. You will probably only be wearing it for 30 minutes so who cares!
Post # 15
I voted yes. Get a pretty bolero for church, then have your stunning strapless gown for the reception. Best of both worlds!
Post # 16
Your FI will love you in whatever you are in that day. I say keep it the way it is. It looks more unique that way.