(Closed) My dress is HUGE

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Wow.  A 10 for a 4?  Is it possible she made a mistake and ordered for someone else’s specs?  Wedding dresses commonly run small, but then she should have ordered a 6 or an 8.  Did you agree to her ordering a 10?  I would not agree to the alterations.  She needs to suck it up and order the proper size.  Trying to alter a 10 to a 4 is going to change the whole design of the dress and she should know that.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

It seems to me that most brides lose some weight before their wedding and someone in this industry should know this.  From what you said, it sounds like you only lost a little bit, but not enough to justify the difference in size.  I agree that altering it that much may change the entire shape of the dress, I would push the issue with the store.  Did you get a response from the designer?

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I can definitely understand being upset that she ordered the wrong size (by bridal salon ordered the wrong bolero and refused to return it).  But as someone who had to get a wedding gown that was three sizes too big (I am pretty small at 4’10"), I can also say that those who are good at alterations can make the dress look like it is supposed to even when they take it in that much. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

Who is the designer of your dress?  Which style is it?

If you only lost an inch or two here or there, a dress will not be huge on you and she shouldn’t blame you for losing weight.  Sounds like she knows she made a mistake (defensive) and doesn’t want to correct it.  Definitely keep trying with the designer, and don’t back down on this.  If you’re good clients, she should be bending over backwards to help you!!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I know that most planning books I’ve read say that designers won’t accept dress returns, because (as the store owner said) they’re cut to order each time.

That said, I think the best thing for this woman to do, especially if you and your family are loyal customers, is take the dress she ordered for you that’s much too big (depending on the designer’s measurement scale, a 10 for a street size 4 does seem much too big) and either use it as a sample or sell it online or keep it in stock for when someone larger than you orders that dress. Then, she should order you a new one. 

Dramatic alterations can really lose the shape and details of a gown, and I’d definitely be wary of letting her do them without some sort of contract in place that states both your expectations for the cost and finished product. I’d also throw in something about how if the gown doens’t meet X definite standards, you’ll expect a new one ordered. 

Good luck! 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

PS – on the bright side, if you do end up getting your gown altered, you should be left with a lot of leftover fabric & lace that you could use to wrap your bouquet, make a little coin purse for your flower girl, trim your veil, etc. 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I too am barely a size 4 in everyday clothes and sometimes even get 2s. When I ordered my dress, they took measurements and the size chart for my dress said a 10! My mom, friend and I were shocked! I have also lost some weight since ordering my dress and plan on losing/toning more before my June wedding. I talked with them about this and they said it wouldn’t be a problem. I’m saying this cause that may (or may not) be the case with the lady you are working with. I would like to think that because you and your family do a lot of business with you that she wouldn’t try to pull the wool over your eyes, but to be honest, she may. She knows you trust her.

Get a quote on the alterations and keep looking into the designer’s return policy. Also, my bridal salon has one price for all alterations, so it may be helpful to find a place like that as opposed to one who charges in other ways.

I’m sorry this is something you have to worry about and I really do hope it all works out for you! I’m sure you will be a beautiful bride!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I really hope everything works out for you!

Here are some thoughts I had as I compare your experience with my own:

When you picked your dress, did the dress shop person go over your measurements with you and talk about what size she recommended be ordered?  My dress shop went over my measurements with me, showed me the dress designer’s chart (my largest measurements put me in between sizes), talked to me about the fit of my dress (a-line) and made her recommendation to me (she told me to order the smaller size since my dress wasn’t a mermaid or fit and flair style).  I was also given a copy of my measurements with my receipt (confirming the color, length, and size of my dress).  Do you have any of this information?   

It may be that your largest measurement (mine was my butt/thigh area) put you in a certain size range based on the designer’s ordering instructions…and going off of your largest measurement, it could be all the other areas of the dress are way too big.

Even though we ordered a size down, my dress was still HUGE!  The straps were way too long, the chest was HUGE (and I’m not super flat-chested or anything…I wear a 34C) and the waist was huge…and my dress had a lot of ruching on top…and there was boning in the chest area…I was expecting a disaster, but the alterations person kept telling me this was common and it would fit great after she was done.  Like you, inches had to be taken in everywhere.  I was not excited about my dress at all and felt like I would end up with an ill-fitting dress.  Well, it turned out great and they did an amazing job fixing my dress…it fit great.

When I think about it, it kind of makes sense that there is a lot of extra material even if the dress is ordered in the correct size…that way things can be altered to fit you like a glove…if there was not enough material you couldn’t alter the dress to fit perfectly in those areas that may be more curvy than the average person and it may make the dress looked strained in those areas.

So I guess I wanted to share my story to let you know that it’s possible for your dress to be saved and I’m sure YOU WILL LOOK ABSOLUTELY GREAT in your dress after the alterations are done.  But to give you some peace of mind, I would suggest asking the dress owner for your measurements (and to go over the manufacturer’s ordering instructions) so you can confirm she didn’t scam you…is there someone else you can talk to at the store who would not be so defensive?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Its definitely not uncommon to have a larger dress size than street size, but you actually tried the dress on right?

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

This just seems bizarre to me.  When I was fitted for my custom made gown I was at the top of the size chart for the size I chose. The woman at the shop said to me "if you were to tell me this is the skinniest you’ll ever be, then I would order up" and I interruped and said, "no I plan to lose about 10 pounds before the wedding" so she said "okay then we will go with this size, but you are signing that you chose to go ‘down’ a size."  I remember being like "yikes, now I really have to do it, I signed for it"  … and I have the document still that I signed for that size.  Hmm … sorry I’m not helping but that just doesnt seem right.   

 

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