Post # 1
So Sunday night I was cooking dinner for Fi and I. I had just had my e-ring at the jewelers 3 weeks ago to fix a broken prong. I had noticed that one of the prongs looked a little light on the gold up top but nothing crazy.
Well P.S. I went to go let our dog out and noticed that my center stone was gone. Poof! Just gone. I was on my hands and knees searching our kitchen and living room. FILS were helping too. The diamond is just gone…
The jeweler is replacing it but its just not the same.. And the kicker is that I wont have it back for 3-4 weeks. Im devastated. I went out and got a CZ ring to wear in the mean time. I still miss mine though.
I think FI is a little put off by the ring I got too. MY e-ring is very dainty. I love it. The CZ ring I bought is much flashier.. He wont admit it, but I think it bothers him that my fake e-ring is “bigger” then the one he gave me. He doesnt understand That I want MY ring back. This is just a placeholder that will turn into a RHR as soon as I get my ring back.
Would your Fi, or Dh be upset by getting a “placeholder”. Heres pics of my e-ring and my CZ ring for reference.
Post # 3
@angelicd77: I feel your pain! My e-ring also had a prong break off & we searched high & lo for that diamond. Thankfully FI found it on the living room floor- which is amazing since I was convinced it had fallen out at a x-mas gift fair. Have you thought about switching your jewelers? I only ask because my prong broke because the jewler he took it to to have it cleaned & get the prongs replaced ended up just topping off my prongs with soldering material rather than starting from the bottom with white gold to rebuild it. Once we took it to a different jewlery I haven’t had any issues & I’ve even banged it against the door frame a few times…. He originally took it to a popular chain store but after that nearly heartbreaking mishap we switched to a local jeweler that does custom designed jewelry & he has been fabulous & can generally do any work we need within a week.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard
tell him that you couldn’t find one smaller than that, and you wanted a stand-in asap, so your finger didn’t feel weird.
even if it’s not 100% true, maybe it’ll make him feel better. smaller cz rings are super hard to find. I guess jewelry companies assume that if you are buying a CZ ring you may as well go big.
I’m sorry you lost your diamond! maybe one day you’ll luck out and find it.
Post # 5
aw, I wouldn’t worry about it. Make sure you reinforce to your FI that you love the ring he got you, and this is just until you get it back. I think it’s fine to have a replacement. Just tell your FI you want to make sure you show you’re “taken” until you get your real e-ring back.
Post # 6
Sorry your ring got damaged. When I can’t wear my ring I tend to wear no ring at all, but if I really wanted it to be clear I was engaged when I was going to see a certain person or whatever, I would wear another of my fine jewelry pieces, and nothing too loud. For me it would most likely be be a gold metalwork band I have, but I also have a gold ring with little blue sapphires in it, or another one with a little ruby and diamond… either of those could serve the purpose and meet the “gemmy ring” expectation. Your FI may be more put off by the “brass-and-glass” choice to represent the engagement than the size of it.
Post # 7
@BeckyS0: I cant really switch because we have a lifetime care plan through this jeweler so because it was their fault theyre actually replacing the diamond for nothing. They do all my inspections, cleanings, refinishings, ect. for nothing because it was included in the plan.
@joya_aspera: If I had any other rings to wear I prob would have just done that. prior to meeting Fi I wasnt much for jewelery and to this day, the only jewelery I wear is what hes given me. Being that my e-ring is the only one he gave me, I didnt have another “go-to” type ring to use.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t wear it as a RHR. I just have a feeling he will not like the comparison. I would feel a little uncomfy wearing a stone larger than the one my SO gave me.
Quite honestly, I really like your original set (prefer it) and the size/proportions of that Ering against your wedding band looks perfect to me.
Post # 9
oh gosh…i’d have checked in my pots and re cooked dinner LOL
that sucks im sorry to hear it 🙁
Post # 10
@angelicd77: the fact that you chose a larger cz/moissanite than the more understated 3 stone diamond that he bought may have him wondering if that is the size & style of ring you would have preferred.
I too would reassure him that you absolutely love your engagement ring and this ring is just to underscore that you are taken.
I agree wiith a pp, wouldn’t wear the other as a rhr either.
Post # 11
I think it is natural for him to feel like this would have been the size/style YOU would have chosen, because given the opportunity… well, you did choose it. If it makes him uncomfortable now, I certainly wouldn’t dream of wearing it as a RHR after yu get your e-ring back. I wouldn’t have purchased anything as a “placehlder”, either, as I just don’t see the need. You’re engaged with or without the ring, and if the ring make your fiance feel bad, then why would you choose to wear it instead of choosing to honour his feelings?
Post # 12
It’s not that I chose this one because I “prefer” it. It’s all the store had in my price range. I didn’t want to spend a ton of money and I spoke with Fi before I went. The ring oonly cost me $9. As far as honoring his wishes, it’s a hunch. He’s the type of guy that as long as I’m happy he is. He never told me he didn’t like it. He actually said he does. And I wanted a placeholder for myself. I wasn’t looking for it to be an excuse to get a bigger ring. It just felt weird not having anything on my finger…
Post # 13
If I didn’t have an appraisal in hand I may have just lost my shizzle looking at your CZ ring. It’s a dead ring-er (pun intended) for my ER!
ETA: My setting is high and gets caught on everything. I’ve had prongs fixed twice. As much as my ring means to me (DH picked it out all by himself), I wouldn’t recommend it to others.
Post # 14
Sorry you lost your diamond! It’s great that your jeweler is replacing it though. Those weeks will fly by. Tell you FI that you would much rather have your ring. Honestly I’m surprised you were able to find such a modest looking CZ…they’re usually ginormous in the stores 🙂
Post # 15
@Belleyboo: How funny! Ive been asked a couple times if FI just upgraded my ring because everyone thinks its real!
In all honesty I do like this ring, but I miss mine…
WAH! I hope this goes by quick! Thanks for the advice ladies! I really appreciate it!
Post # 16
Too bad about the broken prong! Sucks. At least it’s being replaced free 🙂
I usually wear bands if my ring is away for cleaning/repairs. It’s weird to wear a stand-in e-ring, because I have to explain to others what the new ring means, haha. But I do have a stand-in ring, which is smaller than my e-ring. That way I always miss my more substantial e-ring.
Not sure how I feel about guys who don’t feel great about the ring they got their fiance. If they wanted a flashier ring, they could have saved up more, or opted for a non-diamond option. There are styles that offer good finger coverage, if desired, without large stones (intricate vintage styles). They could promise an upgrade in the future. Or they could just be happy with the ring they got in the first place.
Hope you get your ring back soon!