My E-Ring broke! :-(

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@angelicd77:  I feel your pain! My e-ring also had a prong break off & we searched high & lo for that diamond. Thankfully FI found it on the living room floor- which is amazing since I was convinced it had fallen out at a x-mas gift fair. Have you thought about switching your jewelers? I only ask because my prong broke because the jewler he took it to to have it cleaned & get the prongs replaced ended up just topping off my prongs with soldering material rather than starting from the bottom with white gold to rebuild it. Once we took it to a different jewlery I haven’t had any issues &  I’ve even banged it against the door frame a few times…. He originally took it to a popular chain store but after that nearly heartbreaking mishap we switched to a local jeweler that does custom designed jewelry & he has been fabulous & can generally do any work we need within a week. 

Post # 4
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1443 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

tell him that you couldn’t find one smaller than that, and you wanted a stand-in asap, so your finger didn’t feel weird.

even if it’s not 100% true, maybe it’ll make him feel better. smaller cz rings are super hard to find. I guess jewelry companies assume that if you are buying a CZ ring you may as well go big. 

I’m sorry you lost your diamond!  maybe one day you’ll luck out and find it. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

aw, I wouldn’t worry about it.  Make sure you reinforce to your FI that you love the ring he got you, and this is just until you get it back.  I think it’s fine to have a replacement.  Just tell your FI you want to make sure you show you’re “taken” until you get your real e-ring back.

Post # 6
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6407 posts
Bee Keeper

Sorry your ring got damaged. When I can’t wear my ring I tend to wear no ring at all, but if I really wanted it to be clear I was engaged when I was going to see a certain person or whatever, I would wear another of my fine jewelry pieces, and nothing too loud. For me it would most likely be be a gold metalwork band I have, but I also have a gold ring with little blue sapphires in it, or another one with a little ruby and diamond… either of those could serve the purpose and meet the “gemmy ring” expectation. Your FI may be more put off by the “brass-and-glass” choice to represent the engagement than the size of it.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I wouldn’t wear it as a RHR. I just have a feeling he will not like the comparison. I would feel a little uncomfy wearing a stone larger than the one my SO gave me.

Quite honestly, I really like your original set (prefer it) and the size/proportions of that Ering against your wedding band looks perfect to me.

Post # 9
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749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

oh gosh…i’d have checked in my pots and re cooked dinner LOL

that sucks im sorry to hear it 🙁

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@angelicd77:  the fact that you chose a larger cz/moissanite than the more understated 3 stone diamond that he bought may have him wondering if that is the size & style of ring you would have preferred.

I too would reassure him that you absolutely love your engagement ring and this ring is just to underscore that you are taken.

I agree wiith a pp, wouldn’t wear the other as a rhr either.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

I think it is natural for him to feel like this would have been the size/style YOU would have chosen, because given the opportunity… well, you did choose it. If it makes him uncomfortable now, I certainly wouldn’t dream of wearing it as a RHR after yu get your e-ring back. I wouldn’t have purchased anything as a “placehlder”, either, as I just don’t see the need. You’re engaged with or without the ring, and if the ring make your fiance feel bad, then why would you choose to wear it instead of choosing to honour his feelings?

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013

If I didn’t have an appraisal in hand I may have just lost my shizzle looking at your CZ ring. It’s a dead ring-er (pun intended) for my ER!

ETA: My setting is high and gets caught on everything. I’ve had prongs fixed twice.  As much as my ring means to me (DH picked it out all by himself), I wouldn’t recommend it to others. 

 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sorry you lost your diamond!  It’s great that your jeweler is replacing it though.  Those weeks will fly by.  Tell you  FI that you would much rather have your ring.  Honestly I’m surprised you were able to find such a modest looking CZ…they’re usually ginormous in the stores 🙂

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Too bad about the broken prong! Sucks. At least it’s being replaced free 🙂

I usually wear bands if my ring is away for cleaning/repairs. It’s weird to wear a stand-in e-ring, because I have to explain to others what the new ring means, haha. But I do have a stand-in ring, which is smaller than my e-ring. That way I always miss my more substantial e-ring. 

Not sure how I feel about guys who don’t feel great about the ring they got their fiance. If they wanted a flashier ring, they could have saved up more, or opted for a non-diamond option. There are styles that offer good finger coverage, if desired, without large stones (intricate vintage styles). They could promise an upgrade in the future. Or they could just be happy with the ring they got in the first place. 

Hope you get your ring back soon!

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