Post # 1
The night I wrote my post, my FI came home with dinner, red wine, and srawberry pie. I got served all of these in bed as we watched HIMYM on Netflix. We never sit in bed and watch TV. It was great! He hugged me, and told me he’s a lucky man and that I make him very happy.
He somehow knows everything I need, even if he can’t immediately say everything I want to hear. I got some of that support from you all through all of the encouragement and advice from my previous post. He and I still need to talk about this in depth, for sure. However, I’m starting to get perspective, in that this is just a few months of my life, and I probably won’t even remember feeling this bad after how great I’ll feel to be married to such an awesome person.
As I looked at him, I realized my future is so much better than my present, and even if it’s not, like one of you said, it’ll all be okay in the end. I’m looking into therapy to take control of the occasional sadness and worry I know I’ll still get.
I’m going to postpone the procedure until after our engagement dinner, to give us time to talk about it and to get myself more mentally ready. Trust me, I’m sure about it. And I appreciate the respect for my decision and the lack of judgement. I’m going with a medical, and taking a couple days off from work.
Thanks so much for the posts and messages. Now I’m the one who just doesn’t have the words! Thank you thank you thank you.
Post # 3
glad to hear things are starting to look up for you! i feel you made such a good choice by giving yourself a few days after to recover.
wish you nothing but peace in the days to come!
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
I’m glad to hear that you’re waiting until after the dinner — definitely a good choice! You’ll be good with those days off — I wish I’d had a couple of days after mine, but it didn’t work out because I found out I was pregnant on Thursday and had my abortion that Saturday, so I didn’t have time to put in for time off.
Best of luck and enjoy your dinner!
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Glad to hear things are going better for you. Therapy is always helpful if you have a history of depression (I speak from experience), even if you haven’t had to make major life decisions like engagement, weddings, and yes, terminations. And don’t be too worried about the procedure itself. It’s uncomfortable, yeah, but it’s not a HUGE deal, and it’ll be over before you know it. (I stayed home with a roommate who had a medical because she thought she’d need an actual caretaker, and we were both surprised at how much less of a situation it turned out to be. Finally: talk to the doctors at the center about getting on a new form of birth control. If this one isn’t working for you, maybe an IUD? They’re safe, EXTREMELY effective, and have no long-term impact on childbearing (compared to the ones our moms had in the 70s/80s.) My best friend has had one for several years and is having it taken out on her 1 year anniversary and she talked me into getting one, too (this summer).
All the hugs for you.