- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
My first wedding and my husbands as well!
-mother refused to let her family come even though we wanted them too
-changed date and place 3x
– wrong dress
– some guests didn’t get to eat
– sister in drunken rage
– bad, out of exposure pictures
– didn’t go on honeymoon
– parents fighting
– haven’t talked to sister since.
– terrible make-up and hair
and no I am as far from a bridezilla as one can be- actually I am too accommodating to others feelings.
When my husband proposed we knew exactly when and where we wanted to get married. We picked the house on the lake, the boat ride the next day with the family, the hotel, other rental houses for family, the save the dates were beautiful and then wham- my family put their 2 cents in. The complaining started. I am mad at myself for trying to please them all! My family said- you don’t need a big wedding, which I agreed, so why don’t you do a small wedding and we’ll send you on a great honeymoon instead!
So- the date changed, the location changed, everything changed, then my maid of honor got mad that I wasn’t doing a traditional wedding so she stopped helping me as well. Found another house, which was also wonderful, except it was the money pit, like in the movie. Killed myself working on it and spent more money than I would have in the original house to fix it up and 2 weeks before the date the house was infested with bird mites!
so- onto place # 3. My father’s for the ceremony and my sister’s for the reception in the town that we didn’t want to get married in. Everything was rushed, my family just complained and told me what to do. complained about the decorations, the 30 people coming, the food, the amount, the ceremony site, etc. Then to make things worse they wouldn’t help me because my sister got mad that I had moved some furniture and put tablecloths on some tables. She wanted to give me a party her way. Backyard BBQ get drunk style! She kept yelling at me “what are you doing?” and “don’t you know how hard we worked to clean up for you?”.
SO onto the wedding- I had to cancel 70 people 2 weeks before the date and the few that did drive 3 hours to the new location were wonderful. That is the only nice thing. My dress didn’t fit and was awful because I had no one to help me pick it out, my maid of honor didn’t listen to the florist and put the $500 worth of flowers in her trunk with ice cubes instead of air conditioning for the 3 hour drive, which took her 5 hours, the florist didn’t listen to a word I said about what I spent hours going over with her. I got a flower head wreath that was similar to a crown of thorns- I’m Jewish! SO that didn’t go over very well.
The hairdresser and makeup was awful- I wanted soft flowing curls and my hair braided near my face and instead I got an up-doo Dolly parton style. No makeup, and when we arrived for the ceremony site to change, the rabbi and my family tried to talk me out of having the ceremony at the park over looking the river and tried to have it in my fathers living room instead and then rushed everyone out before I could even go and change into my dress. I had to change myself! No family or bridal party.
So- Had to wait for my sister and mother to get out of the car, because they were hot and didn’t want to come up until I was ready to start so we never got to go over the lineup and what to do- and after the wedding I had asked my family and bridal party to stay for pictures to no avail! no pictures!
onto the reception- We were told by the rabbi to take a little time to be by ourselves after the ceremony. we stayed and everyone went to my sisters house. She was in charge of the directions- which were wrong! then when we got there, my maid of honor decided to go by her traditional way and not let anyone eat until we arrived! 30 minutes after we all started to eat- my mother and sister put all the food away – in the middle of my wedding- doing dishes and all – and I found out that some people still hadn’t eaten and some wanted seconds. SO much for the you bought too much food theory. I had repeatedly asked her not to put the food away during the reception. Actually begged her at one point. Told her i wanted her to enjoy herself and have fun.
Then she came down to where my new husband and I were sitting with guest and proceeded to tell me “it was time to cut the cake because it was almost 9:30.” We only got there at 8:45. That’s when I came up to find the food gone! Then I was told by my mother and sister that I was being ugly because I asked them why they were ruining my wedding and doing everything opposite of what my husband and I had requested. My mother then told me “it was my sister’s house and she can do whatever she wanted” not me! All I kept saying to everyone is “thank you so much for helping us out at the last minute, we are soo grateful” I even asked others if they thought that I was being mean or nasty or demanding and they said no I was being too nice and letting them walk all over me.
SO- then I went into the bathroom in the middle of my wedding and cried! we cut the cake and threw the bouquet and everyone left an hour later.
The next day we just kept saying thank you thank you thank you and we love you! My father told me a couple of days after that my sister felt I was unappreciative and ungrateful for all the hard work she did.
Then my niece was upset that she didn’t get paid for her help as a bridesmaid!
SO- I have no pictures of the bridal party, no pictures with my family, the pictures I do have are terrible because the guy taking them didn’t know about exposure so we are all bright red, my sister and my niece haven’t talked since the wedding. Except for her to tell me I owned her boyfriend a thank you for the use of their house- which I had already sent out heartfelt thank you notes that they hadn’t gotten yet- Oh yeah and the cake was the wrong cake and the bakery wouldn’t discount or refund the money. My parents are fighting over $500 and we didn’t go on the honeymoon to the Dominican Republic after all! and my sister is posting all the bad pictures that we look terrible in on facebook instead of the nice one’s.
so- needless to say I have the post wedding blues! It was awful- and now when it’s coming up to the time that we had wanted the original date and I drove by the original place and I am verrrry depressed and resentful at my whole family- except my dad who tried his best to make this day wonderful!
Wish I could do it over! 🙁