Post # 1
So, my ex-boyfriend and I broke up a few days ago, we had been dating for two years. His mom is getting remarried and asked me to be a bridesmaid when they first started planning it awhile back. We didn’t break up because of loss of feelings, but distance. She sent me a message and still told me they wanted me in the wedding, we are supposed to go looking for dresses in a couple of weeks, and the wedding is in late July, do I still be in the wedding or say no sorry!
Post # 3
I say yes, I mean.. you must have formed a relationship with his mom during those 2 years… a strong enough one for her to ask you to stand up. If distance was the only issue his mom is prob thinking that you will get back together anyways, is there a chance?
Post # 4
You only broke up a few days ago, so it probably hasn’t sunk in yet. By July, after you have both moved on more, it could be awkward. Do you plan to keep in touch with her in other ways? I would tell her that you’re honored but decline. If you’re invited as a guest, you won’t have to decide to go or not until closer to the date when you can see how things stand between you. What if you’re both dating other people by then? I just think it’s probably a bad idea to be in the wedding, in her pictures to be reminded forever, when you probably won’t be in her life in the future.
Post # 5
that sounds so awkward. I’d say no if I were in your situation.
Post # 6
I’d say no. That is just going to make things awkward. I definitely think that now it might feel like the right thing but by the time the wedding rolls around and things have settled you will regret it. Also- what if he has a date to the wedding?
Post # 7
Probably no just because it could get awkward! and I agree with MissMusic what if he has a date?
Post # 8
I’m not sure on this one… I’m sure you’ve formed a relationship with her and it may be tough, but are you going to diligently stay in touch with her between now and then? I think, also, because of the awkward factor, it may be best to decline.
Post # 9
I think that you should tell her that you care for her greatly but that you can’t be in her wedding. I feel like in July you will feel a lot differently, and wouldn’t want to attend the wedding.
Post # 10
I think it just might complicate things, especially if you two still have feelings.
Post # 11
I think you need to have a heart to heart with her….it may not be the best option if your not going to be together then. I would be honest with her about the situation and how you feel but respectfully.