(Closed) My ex contacted my FI

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Casa Real at Ruby Hill Winery

Ugh that is so annoying. I’m sorry that happened. I think your ex is obvioulsy jealous that you’ve moved on and he wants to ruin your happiness. He’s immature and vindictive. I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t let it get to you. Also, I wouldn’t acknowledge your ex. I think it’s much more effective to ignore people like that than get involved in drama with them, which is what they want.

Post # 4
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604 posts
Busy bee

Wow good thing you got him out of your life, and if your FI isn’t bothered then even better. The idiot just wanted to cause problems because he is prbably bitter and you have moved on with your life. Guys are like that they want you to be crying over them for an eternity. My so-called ex is getting married and he contacted me weird and random. Another ex always seems to im me with retarded comments…why…because I am in a happy stable relationship, and they want to bother. So just brush it off and be happy with your FI. If you can, make your wedding website private or somthing.

Post # 5
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436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Casa Real at Ruby Hill Winery

Oh, yeah, I forgot to mention that I think you should make your website private as well.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

What a jerk! Seriously! But you know, you’re FI is right, you should let it go. Like you said, you went to therapy, overcame your own issues and moved on to a better and happier life. It seems that your ex hasn’t done that and is still dealing with his own issues and wants to project them. Don’t let him drag you down – which is exactly what he’s trying to do. You’re better than that, and you and your FI deserve more. An argument with him will just open the door for further contact, and I’m sure that’s the last thing you and your FI want. Seriously, I know it’s hard (I still feel the need to contact my ex every now and then just to make sure he understands that I still hate him, as sad as that is) but I would just ignore him.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

wow he’s a total douche(sorry watching a lot of Jersey Shore)!  He obviously is still immature, and why does he even care??  Seems like he may still have some feelings.  At least you have a FI that is understanding and mature.  Your ex needs to get over it! 

Post # 8
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292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Bean’s right. I’ve had some nutty encounters with an ex before, and the BEST thing to do is ignore them. I once engaged, and holy smokes, he wouldn’t leave me alone because he took my anger to be a sign that I was still into him, ahahaha. So, yeah. Just let it be.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Your ex is an idiot, that’s why! At least you have a FI who wasn’t bothered by it, and he’s not letting it get in the way. As hard as it is, I urge you to let it go. Contacting him and yelling at him might be part of what he wants. He’s immature, and that’s his problem. I think it’s time to put a PW on your site!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

You know what I do when I really want to yell at someone but know that it won’t get a desired result? I write it all down in a letter to them and then never send it. It helps me get it all out but keeps me from actually having to contact them at all. You should try it! Say everything you want to say to him and then burn that dang letter! 😀

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

This is pretty awful 🙁  It sounds like your fiance is being really supportive though, and that is a great sign.  I know it’s hard, but you should do as your fiance says and just try to forget about it… oh, and password protect your wedding website.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I am so sorry that you have to deal with this.  Your ex is obviously jealous that you are happy and he probably is not.  I agree with the above posters that you and your FI should not even acknowledge the email.  Perhaps your FI can block his email account.  This guy just wants to ruffle your and your FI’s feathers.  He wants you to be unhappy because he is unhappy (and obviously too selfish to deal with it himself).  Don’t give him that satisfaction.  I think Layla’s idea about writing your feelings in a letter and destroying it sound like a good release for the anger you are feeling.

BTW, it is awesome that your FI is so supporting during this situation.  Sounds like you two are destined for greatness together!

Post # 14
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

total douche ex and hes obviously not in a happy place with himself or his life to feel its necessary to inflict drama on you so let the guy stew in his own unhappiness. you being happy will be your own best revenge to this incident

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with eloping.  He’s not happy.  He wants still drag you down with him. He also could be jealous that you’ve moved on with your life and away from him.  I think he would have contacted you but knew he’d get under your skin for contacting your FI.  Ignoring him is your best bet. Points to your FI for being the better man!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ugh that sucks a lot. I’m glad it sounds like your FI is pretty level headed and cool with it all. I hope he can make the website private to keep your ex out of it!

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