Post # 1
Hello beez! I am not a new user, I just forgot my password and my email password 🙁
Ok so I need some BIG advice for what I’m going through. I have been with a guy for 8 months. Our relationship was very complicated. In a different world it would of been perfect. Me and let’s call him S were going through up and down from the start because for one I was Comparing him to my ex. I wasn’t bluntly comparing but I would throw some words here and there. Ok I understand that was wrong on my part. On his part he was going through a huge finical crisis and family issues. I understood and was there for him. But no matter how hard I tried things weren’t working. He was just in a bad dark zone that no one could of pulled him out of not even me. We both decided to end it more him because I was still trying a bit at the end.
A month and half after we broke things off I find out he got engaged. It was arranged, but still that was weird BIG shocker. Three weeks into being engaged to the girl he broke things off and told his entire family he does not feel right and he has no feelings for the girl because he was still in love with me. He broke things off and tried getting in contact with me and wrote me how sorry he was and how much he regrets everything and he will do anything in the world to have me back in his life. Go against the world for me…. I read it and deleted it with out even replying. I didn’t even want to respond to him after everything that Happened. I heard from friends he was depressed and going nuts without me. I didn’t care.
A week after the email. He sent me HUGE vas of flowers and candles. With a nite saying how sorry he was. I thought about it and said okay ill just text and say thank you for the flowers. I did and he than started to pour out his heart to me and I was replying very dryly and told him I didn’t care and he chose was he wanted. He didn’t stop. He called and we talked for hrs about everything and he said he will do anything and he realized so much and he was an idiot that was going through tremendous stress that he know does to have and wants to prove to me everything he couldn’t before. I told him it’s hard to trust him and the subject is too delicate to say for sure what will happen.
He wants me badly and is practly begging. He says no one makes him feel like me and wants to marry me ASAP if I wanted. I didn’t give him answer I just said I forgive you for what’s its worth and that’s it. He is willing to work for this… I don’t know what to do. I know I don’t love him after he got engaged and how he couldn’t hold the relationship when we had it. He admits he was very weak and he wants a second chance to show me. I still care for him but this is just so hard ….
Thanks you beez for reading …..
I hope you are all well…
i have missed the hive dearly… ❤️ È
This topic was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by Rokketb.
Post # 2
Rokketb: It’s up to you if you want to be a rebound…
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN
Aquaria: technically the other chick was a rebound…
Post # 4
It didn’t work the first time, sounds like not much has changed except sounds like he is afraid to be alone ( IE getting into an arrange marriage asap).
If you are going to get back together I would proceed slowly, no marriage talk till you get all your ducks in a row
Post # 5
MrsWoods47: They’re both rebounds. Sounds like a lonely guy who is abnormally obsessed with marriage.
Post # 6
You say you dont love him so where is your dilemma?
Post # 7
Zenia: I had love for him. But I feel that the time we were together was the wrong timing. I’m curious since everything in his life is back to normal
Post # 8
Rokketb: So your first relationship with this guy “didn’t work out no matter how hard I tried,” he gets into a very serious commitment very quickly after breaking it off with you, ends that relationship and is now desperate and begging to get back together with you? This guy sounds very unstable emotionally, immature, and displays very poor judgement. To me, these are red flags that I wouldn’t brush aside just because I missed someone.
Post # 10
Yes you are right. He knows he was emotionally unstable. He feels that he had to go through what he did to see the light in things . And plus having everything off his shoulders with the finical crisis and etc he is more clear headed for a realtonship. This is his words I’m not trying to sugar this .. at ALL
Post # 11
I would say that if you still have feelings- just date him. Do not jump back into the deep end with this guy. Don’t rush into anything, there’s really no need. Take it slow, see if anything has changed, and if it has great. If it hasn’t you’ve still given both of you enough time to realize it was just loneliness or fear of being alone, or what have you.
Post # 12
“He couldn’t hold the relationship when he had it.”. Do you really need another reason?
Post # 13
Having love for someone is not the same as being in love with someone. I would say forget it. He sounds like he’d be a drama queen.
Post # 14
Rokketb: I wouldn’t be too mad at him for getting engaged only because it was an arranged marriage (ie. not his idea). And from what I’ve read the pressure to enter one of those can be very strong in some cultures.
I would proceed with caution tho. Maybe go on a date every couple of weeks to start, no hooking up for a while. Just make sure he’s truly in the right frame of mind.
There’s always the chance that the next major life crisis could send him but to that same dark place so I’d strongly suggest he sees someone about handling those times.
Post # 15
I’m not seeing whats attractive about his offer. The history is dark, he ran into another woman’s arms, and th ended that and came running back to you. He sounds unstable, frankly.