My ex got engaged broke it off and wants me back badly, what to do. NEED advise

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Rokketb:  It’s up to you if you want to be a rebound…

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Aquaria:  technically the other chick was a rebound…

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

It didn’t work the first time, sounds like not much has changed except sounds like he is afraid to be alone ( IE getting into an arrange marriage asap).

If you are going to get back together I would proceed slowly, no marriage talk till you get all your ducks in a row

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

MrsWoods47:  They’re both rebounds. Sounds like a lonely guy who is abnormally obsessed with marriage.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

You say you dont love him so where is your dilemma?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Rokketb:  So your first relationship with this guy “didn’t work out no matter how hard I tried,” he gets into a very serious commitment very quickly after breaking it off with you, ends that relationship and is now desperate and begging to get back together with you? This guy sounds very unstable emotionally, immature, and displays very poor judgement. To me, these are red flags that I wouldn’t brush aside just because I missed someone. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

I would say that if you still have feelings- just date him. Do not jump back into the deep end with this guy. Don’t rush into anything, there’s really no need. Take it slow, see if anything has changed, and if it has great. If it hasn’t you’ve still given both of you enough time to realize it was just loneliness or fear of being alone, or what have you. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

“He couldn’t hold the relationship when he had it.”.  Do you really need another reason? 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2000

Having love for someone is not the same as being in love with someone. I would say forget it. He sounds like he’d be a drama queen.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Rokketb:  I wouldn’t be too mad at him for getting engaged only because it was an arranged marriage (ie. not his idea). And from what I’ve read the pressure to enter one of those can be very strong in some cultures.

I would proceed with caution tho. Maybe go on a date every couple of weeks to start, no hooking up for a while. Just make sure he’s truly in the right frame of mind.

There’s always the chance that the next major life crisis could send him but to that same dark place so I’d strongly suggest he sees someone about handling those times. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m not seeing whats attractive about his offer. The history is dark, he ran into another woman’s arms, and th ended that and came running back to you. He sounds unstable, frankly. 

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