Post # 1
I was reading the news yesterday and came across an article about a sting operation that resulted in the arrest of dozens of people who were possessing and distributing child porn. The very first thing I saw was my ex’s mugshot. He’s 24. I wanted to vomit. I’m still in shock. We weren’t together very long (3 months and then off and on for a year) but he NEVER seemed like the type. Never said ANYTHING alluding to being interested in kids. He was just a young, funny hipster guy.He texted me every month for a year trying to win me back. He was depressed and had a drinking problem, but I never thought something like this would be the cause.
I can’t believe it. It’s so surreal to think I was involved with someone capable of doing something so evil. I barely slept last night. I tried to recount every moment with him to see if there were signs and I came up with nothing. I wondered if maybe it was accident because he was always illegally downloading movies and music but the Feds targeted a website that is popular among pedophiles and spent 3 months watching all of the suspects to see what they were searching for. A SWAT team busted down his door and executed a search warrant.
I seriously can’t believe this. I hate that I ever met him.
Post # 3
@newcitylights: Wow! I can’t imagine how you must be feeling! That’s awful… There are some things you can never really tell about a person. How icky… I’m glad they caught him!
Post # 4
I am so sorry. Thank god he is an ex! A friend of mine was in a serious relationship (over 4 years) with a man who was arrested on pedophilia charges when she went away for a weekend. She was so devastated. The only thing she noticed was that he was not interested in sex.
Post # 5
well shit. Atleast you didnt marry him!
Post # 6
@newcitylights: Yikes… that is so scary! I’m sorry, but just be thankful you aren’t still with him!
Post # 7
@newcitylights: Oh I am so sorry!!! People like that are very secretive. You would have never known unless you found something. Just be thankful for the dodged bullet!!!!
Post # 8
@newcitylights: *HUGS* Well they’re exes for a reason (some reasons are better than others), just be glad that you didn’t settle down/have kids with him. Sorry you had to find out something so horrible and disgusting, but at least the police have caught him and a few others now.
Post # 9
As another Bee said, thank your lucky stars (and God & Karma) that your relationship never went any further… you dodged a bullet for sure
Post # 10
Well that sucks. I’d probably try to take solace in imagining that maybe he just had pictures of some 15 year old that looked like she was 20. But yeah. Sucky.
Post # 11
@newcitylights: wow – very scary, BUT everyone is innocent until proven guilty, it’s possible that he is caught up in a sting by way of a roommate’s stuff/mistake, virus etc. it does happen, although obviously that is a very small percentage.
i’m so sorry you had to read that, what a shock :/ it’s terrible to think that people that like live in our communities.
Post # 12
@newcitylights: There’s always three sides to a story – his side, their side, and the truth. I’m not excusing his behaviour, don’t get me wrong. However, I do see a huge difference between the folks out molesting kids and the folks who have some sick fetish and watch it. Yes, I do realize that without demand it wouldn’t be distributed but I’m not sure looking at one website makes you a pedophile. Just my opinion, not here to argue it.
I can imagine it was a huge shock, but know there was nothing you could and no way you could have known. At least you didn’t have a kid with him. If he was truly a pedophile, a built in victim is often why they have kids to begin with. I’m sorry that you’re feeling so badly but it is absolutely not your fault and no reflection on you at all!
Post # 13
Gah! Consider yourself lucky that you got out of the relationship. Icky!
I once found out that a woman who I used to baby sit for went bat shit crazy and ended up killing another woman and cutting her baby out of her. Yeah, it really happened. When I saw the article I was in a state of shock. I shared meals, shopping trips and clothes with this woman! Insane.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Yikes! Devils advocate, innocent until proven guilty, etc, but maybe they arrested everyone in the house because they share an Internet connection, and maybe it was a roommate only?
I can’t imagine, I don’t know what I’d feel in this situation. Definitely a shock!
Post # 15
That is very worrisome and thank goodness you know now! HOwever remember – you are innocent until proven guilty right? Maybe something in his depression or something triggered it or – who knows what – but at least its not you problem!
Post # 16
You dodged a bullet. It happens. This is no reflection on you… I would try to put it out of your mind. It’s not like you were married for 30 years and just found out. It isn’t that hard to hide something like this if you’ve only been dating for a little while and don’t live together.
Like they say… you generally can’t spot a serial killer… they blend in. It’s not like you can recognize a pedo by their stereotypical creepy moustache either, you know what I mean?