- 5 years ago
My ex and I dated for 5 years. We’ve been broken up since 2005.
When we first split, he was SO happy to be without me; he moved in with his friends and was having the time of his life. He said we could remain friends though, so we did. When I met someone new, as soon as my ex found out, he was crushed. We stopped being friends shortly thereafter.
Once a year, he contacts my best friend, and asks her how SHE’S doing, and then throws in a random question about me too. So she called him out on it (“Why do you message me, just to ask about AquaGrey?”) so he stopped messaging her last year.
Well today, one of his friends (whom I’m still friends with, via Facebook,) posted a really, really old picture of him, back when we had been dating. And he commented and said something like “If I ever get a second life, I’d make different choices. Mainly, I’d never move in with AquaGrey.”
This hurt my feelings… the guy is a total jerk, we had many problems, and I don’t love him at all anymore but, within those 5 years, I experienced so many new things (concerts, road trips, I lost my virginity to him, my first real job, parties, etc), and so many happy memories live there.
I look back on that time and smile… because I’m thankful that I got to experience them. He just seems bitter and bitchy and miserable about it.
So I feel stupid for looking back and being happy about the good times, because apparently he looks back and hates it.
I just needed to tell someone about this. 🙁