(Closed) My ex is trying to mess up my wedding plans! Sorry, a little rant here…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t really have any advice. I would say that you should try and talk reasonanably to him, but that doesn’t sounds like an option. It sounds like your lawyer has already told you the legal route you can take.

I just wanted to say that I’m really sorry that this is happening to you. It must be horrible to deal with someone that awful in your life. *hugs*

Post # 4
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Probably not the best suggestion, but is there anyone in his family you could appeal to? Someone he might listen to?

Post # 5
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh no!  I would  see if there is someone he’d listen to like @StormyRose: said.  It really sucks that he is trying to rain on your parade.  Good luck!  I hope this all works itself out without costing you extra money!

Post # 7
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Honestly I would make a backup wedding plan and make it something great here in the states. The best thing for all of you is if you can let him affect you and your wedding as little as possible. How about Hawaii or palm beach. Both could be options. Also big big plus is that it will annoy him to no end that it does not spoil anything for you. Seriously make changes that he can’t interfere with!

Post # 8
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Does your daughter have any “pull” with him? Can your son talk to him?

I also like the US backup plan- what about one of the US Virgin Islands? 

Post # 9
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I totally get having a crappy ex. Im not sure he would ever go as far as yours has with not letting one of my daughters travel but he could surprise me and usually does. I realize it was probably some sort of dream to get married in the bahamas but with exes like ours we dont the luxury of always living out our dreams with our kids. atleast not until they’re of age. i wish you luck but i would make a back up pllan for sure.

Post # 10
1077 posts
Bumble bee

As the custodial parent you don’t actually need his permission for her to travel, at least you don’t in my state. As a 16 year-old with her family they won’t even think twice about checking her. My Dad tried to bar my sister from international travel around the same age and it didn’t work at all. Even if it says so in the divorce decree as the parent responsible for her primary care so long as she wants to go and it doesn’t occur during his visitation there isn’t actually much he can do about it. 

Post # 13
3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

How frustrating!  Hopefully, he will listen to your daughter.  Keep up posted.

Post # 14
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Good luck!!

Post # 15
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@lorie:  I feel for you Hon.  (( HUGS ))

And I totally get your story… because it somewhat parallels mine.

My Hubby was an Alcoholic and Abusive… after 20 Years I had enough and up told him he had to go.  Lol, he refused, and made my life a H#LL while we were seperated and thru to the end of our Divorce some 5 more years on

He refused every court order that came down the pipe… he was determined to see me suffer.  I was virtually homeless at one point, and on the doorstep of our local Food Bank.  He didn’t care

He put me over $ 100,000 into debt, and legal fees thru the roof.  Everytime he’d be ordered to pay me part of a settlement, he’d wink and tell me… that I’d be using that money to drag his A&& back into court to get some more (cheques that were supposed to come monthly as per a court order)… I had to fight him for every single penny, nickel and dime.

It was bad for my health, my relationship with our kids (he poisoned their minds against me… easy to do when you have all the money and hand your teens a GOLD Amex Card !!)

He would say “Look at your mother… she is a wreck, she has nothing”… “Look where she lives, etc”… implying somehow that this was MY CHOICE…

In the end Karma caught up to him… his addiction got the best of him, and he inevitably died.

Incredibly, since then, my life has gotten much better (maybe lack of stress ?) or maybe because somewhere on “the otherside” he has decided in his own way to make ammends to the girl who loved him so much from the time she was 20 years old.

Who knows.

Anyways, my story can’t make your situation any better, other than to tell you… I care, you are not alone.

Hopefully your very incredible Daughter will sort this out… and be able to be your Maid/Matron of Honor (*fingers crossed*)

And ya, the Concent to Travel Outside of Country Document signing sucks (in your situation) BUT remember that it is a good thing, as it came about because of Amber Alerts, and does much to prevent the unlawful kidnapping (parents & grandparents mostly) and sex trafficing of children and young women.

He’d have to get your consent as well if he wanted to take the kids outside of the USA

Trust me, you will get thru this to.

PS… Been reading your posts for awhile now (recognize your pretty Icon / Avatar) dying to read all about your Wedding, so sending ~~ Good Vibes ~~ your way that this is all resolved shortly

Post # 16
3063 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wish I had some advice to give you… I hope everything works out.

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