Post # 1
This is more so just a rant as I’ve been feeling pretty down lately about the lack of excitement from my family.
My family has never really made a big deal about any of my accomplishments. I have a younger sister who gets all the attention, which just makes me feel worse. She got married a couple years ago, and everyone was over the moon. It was a huge deal. Why can’t I have that?
I will be surprised if 2 family members show up to my wedding, and they all live in the same town as me!! My fiancee’s family is amazing! His parents have offered to pay for part of the wedding, which makes me feel embarassed (my family has money, but wouldn’t dare offer to help).
The only thing that makes me feel better about the whole situation, is knowing that my fiancee’s family will soon be MY family too! His family knows my situation and have already embraced me as their own. My FMIL has taken been helping the way I always thought my mother would. This is what keeps me motivated.
Even though I know all this, I still get sad. I’ve always wanted my fairytale wedding. I always thought my mom would be excited to help me plan a wedding. I thought this might bring us close. She hasn’t even asked to see the ring even though she lives 10 min away!
I talk to my fiancee about my feelings, and he’s a great support, but I still can’t get over it. Isn’t this day supposed to be about me??? I feel like it won’t be my day at all.
Post # 3
I am so sorry, that is horrible but I am happy that you are marrying into a wonderful family. Remember, blood is not always thicker than water.
Post # 4
Sorry to hear you feel like this. Have you sat down with your family or mom and told them how you feel? Ask them why? I would hate for your family not to be there by your side on your special day and if they do show up to act like ok we are here now what. You need to let them know how this is hurting you. I know its awesome that FI family is there but I know you would feel better if your family came around. Good luck on this situation.
Post # 5
@ricangen81: Thanks for your comment. Unfortunately, when I try to tell them how I feel, they get mad at me andit just makes things worse. I know it sounds stupid, but there’s no winning with my family. They are very narcasistic people, which I’m slowly coming to terms with. It’s just difficult because I’m nothing like them.
At least I’m gaining a loving family through all of this. 🙂
Post # 6
Awww, I’m sorry! If your date is correct, then your wedding is still a looong way off. Maybe they will get more excited once it gets closer.
Post # 7
Sorry that your going through this, it sucks when those that are supposed to love and support you don’t show it.
You can either try to let it go and appreciate all the love and support from FI’s family that much more, or you could try mentioning something to your family. things can’t get better if they just get shoved under the rug and ignored.
Post # 8
It does sound like there are some narcissistic traits in your family. 🙁
I’m going through the same thing, so I understand. Try to be happy and embrace your SO’s family.