(Closed) My family hates me.

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Aw sweetie. That’s atrocious 🙁 she forgot your birthday?

I could understand why you would want to elope :/…would you be able to do like 15 of your closest friends and people who love you?

Post # 4
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3257 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Would you elope if your family didn’t suck?

I would just hate to see you give up a less private wedding if it’s what you’ve always wanted…

But if it’s not and you’re only doing it to have your family there, then go for it and elope.

I also have a very hurtful family… my own sisters refuse to speak to me for undisclosed reasons and both dropped out of the wedding. However, we’re still having our wedding because we are going to have supportive friends and other family members who will enjoy our day with us. Don’t let your family ruin this for you if you have others who will be there to support you and love on you…

Post # 6
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m so sorry you don’t have the supportive family system you so deserve in this time in your life. I’m sure I speak for myself and lots of other Bees when I say that this Hive will be here for you as much as humanly possible and we will anxiously await gorgeous photos of whatever wedding you and your FI decide to have.

Post # 7
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2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i think this is a perfect situation for eloping. i think even just you, mister man, and your daughter…. it could be beautiful and intimate.

Post # 9
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3257 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: Do what makes the four of you happy and be confident in your decision. 🙂

Post # 10
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

What a hateful shrew!! I say, elope with your closest people, and have a freaking blast!!

Post # 12
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2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SoontobeMrsA: i am doing a disney wedding. i definitely think it’s a great idea.

 

if you are willing to move your wedding forward by a couple months, you can take advantage of the 20 year anniversary special going on right now (ends in april 2012). 

for $1991 you can pick one of three ceremony sites, have your fifteen minute ceremony, you get your bouquet, three hours of limo service (or a honeymoon treatment to your hotel room), a violinist, and one hour of professional photography. the only thing you need to do is hire your own officiant.

Post # 13
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3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: no kidding. and obviously you are an amazing mom. Don’t let her get you down 🙁

You and Mr. A deserve the wedding of your dreams, and just follow your heart and do what makes you happy.

You know how I feel about my family..I wish we’d just done the same!

Post # 14
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299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m sorry you are going through this…. i may have missed your earlier posts – but have you tried to talk to your mom and sis about how you feel?

As far as eloping – you need to have the wedding you want regardless of those who are not being supportive. If you wanted a small intimate wedding than go for it – those who matter and care will be there to support you, and if others don’t – u don’t need them ! You deserve to be happy, do whatever it takes. Lotsa luck and Happy Almost Birthday – I hope u do something special.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@SoontobeMrsA:  You don’t deserve this sort of treatment!  I bet it has to be really hurtful.  Does your Mom have any idea what she’s doing to your relationship that she should treasure?  HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 16
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1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Elope, wear something you feel beautiful in, and CELEBRATE along with your nearest and dearest.

I have 5 brothers and sisters and only one talks to me – I never really figured out why they dislike me so (they don’t like my brother who talks with me either). When my daughter died, no one even came to her funeral! Now that’s COLD. And I know they knew about it because my ex (her father) told me he told them about it and I put an obit in the paper in their area. I used to send them Christmas cards and the year my Mom died, the cards came back with “not at this address” hand-written on them. It was like they “tolerated” me while my Mom was still alive and then they felt no need to bother with me thereafter. So after years of trying to get them to communicate or with me, I gave up. Screw them! I have plenty of people in my life that care about me! Unfortunately, not everyone is fortunate enough to have a loving family!

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