Post # 1
For our wedding, my fiance and I decided that we wanted something small and intimate, and that we wanted the wedding party to be small as well. We decided to each have 3. In keeping with the small bridal party, I chose my sister to be my maid of honor, and 2 of my cousins who I am extremely close to to be my bridesmaids. Now that I am less than 2 months away from the big day, one of my other cousins is complaining to the family about not being asked to be in the wedding. I haven’t spoken to this girl in almost 7 years. The last time we hung out was in high school, and she was trying to pressure me to do drugs! We are not close and we never talk! But now she is making this big stink about not being in the wedding. My grandmother even complained about how "hurt" this girl claimed to be about not being in my wedding and how I should have asked her. I think this is beyond rude! Now my cousin’s mother is giving my mom the silent treatment over this- I’m the one who didn’t include her, not my mom! This cousin is very manipulative and tries to make everything about herself to get attention from her enabling mother. I’m already stressed to the max and I don’t need this! I feel like they’re really being rude and immature, but I don’t know how to tell them to stop!
Post # 3
don’t give in be strong; it’s your wedding
Post # 4
Maybe you should just say "well we aren’t that close anymore" or, if she really starts pissing you off, drop the bomb on the drug stuff, LoL. I’d totally do that
Post # 5
You can’t control how other people will act; you can only control how you react. Just don’t give this drama seeker any more of your attention– she’ll settle down if nobody’s feeding her fire, just like any little kid who is throwing a temper tantrum eventually does.
Post # 6
I was going to have the same suggestion as ejs. he he! Seriously, you can see where the cousin gets it, since her own mother seems to be throwing fit (in a silent way..)
That got me thinking, when I got married, I had my one cousin in my wedding, but my other cousin (her sister) I didn’t ask. I gave it brief thought, but really it wassimilar to you (minus the drug offer). The other cousin just moved away. I hadn’t seen her in a while. The cousin I asked, I was closer to. No one blew a fuse. The other cousin came to my wedding, and ws fine. I’m sorry you couldn’t have the same experience.
Post # 7
Don’t even get me started! 🙂 My MOH is male. The comments have been endless and most of them involve telling me who I should have picked instead of him, my very good friend with whom I speak everyday. Yeah…
My standard argument is: weddings are emotionally stressful and I’m sure to have lots of pre-wedding jitters. I need someone who knows me and FI really well, is supportive of the marriage, and able to calm me down. At least for me, I’m not that comfortable around near-stranger relatives!