My family is driving me crazy.

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
Member
31 posts
Newbee

Oh I hear the stress coming off of you. I know it’s difficult but you need to simply ignore their voices and focus on one thing only…. you’re getting married to the love of your life. If a small itimate wedding is truly what both of you want, go for it. It’s not your families wedding. It’s you and your significants wedding.

I am feeling the pressure as well from my family and thus far its been a difficult ride but I know our day will be worth it in the end because its what WE wanted and not what THEY want.

 

Stay Strong!!!

Post # 3
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250 posts
Helper bee

I would let them know how much a typical wedding in your area would cost.  If they are still ok with paying it I would go with the flow. It is not a big deal to you but obviously this is a big deal to your family.  If you really feel like taking this on then I would have the insurance for your car transferred into your name asap and take the chance that they will ruin your wedding day with snide comments or worse not attend and resent you. 

Remember that this is not just a big event in YOUR life but also THEIRS because their little girl is getting married.  A compromise can be made by working with your family instead of against them on the must have people while keeping it intimate.  Maybe once they see the cost of actually hosting a wedding they will get onboard with the smaller wedding idea.  

Post # 4
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2657 posts
Sugar bee

I would be blunt and tell them that there will be no further wedding discussion unless it is an RSVP to the courthouse ceremony.  They’re not wrong that weddings are usually big events for families, but ultimately it is not their wedding to plan and not their decision to make.  Remember that this day is to celebrate you and your SO.  Your family is free to be jerks and make a scene, but they’re only hurting themselves by doing so.

Don’t accept any of their money even if they say it will be for your small intimate ceremony.  Also, get your insurance changed.  Auto insurance can be surprisingly cheap if you have a plan with a spouse (assuming you have decent driving histories).  My husband and I’s insurance rate dropped like a rock when we merged our policies together.

Post # 7
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2657 posts
Sugar bee

cestdanielle:  If you don’t have a car titled in your name, you can still get nonowners insurance.  It gives you the legally required coverage but you don’t need to have your own car.  I had it for a gap between selling a car and waiting for a new one and had no issues.

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