- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Just wondering if anyone else has had this and how they handled it. I had a somewhat dysfunctional childhood that I have worked hard to move past from. It has taken alot of get the life I value so much now. I’d rather not say all the reasons, but there are major issues in my family that even still make us distant from each other to this day and certain people in my family dont even talk to each other. I’d say I’m the neutral one out of everyone. I love my family but it’s been really stressful thinking of them interacting too much with my friends, soon to be in-laws and my FI (who they’ve met once.)
I’m not all that close with my family. I feel my parents didn’t have anything in common with me and always wanted me to be someone different (even to this day.) My dad has said some awful things to me in the past and just doesn’t seem to take an interest in my life. He wishes I was a lawyer and loud but I have never wanted to be that. I prefer to be me.
And my mom has a lot of personal issues. Everyone looks at their kids as “their child” but she takes it to a new level. She literally wants me to be a kid again and move back in with her. (I’m in my thirties and getting married!) Also, she is really flighty and in her own world ans strikes a lot of people as odd. She doesn’t have any sense of how to conduct herself in public almost.
The main thing though is that both of them don’t know me as an adult because I moved away when I was 18. So all they do, especially my mother, is talk about all the things I did as a kid, I was highly imaginative and a tomboy. I know some of this is to be expected but like I said, I don’t like to think of the past and was pretty miserable. I want to enjoy my day and don’t want to think about my parents having to remind me all the time of any embarassing thing I did.
I don’t know if I should talk to them about it or not? Or what to say? I don’t think they are even aware of how I feel.