- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
So I live in NY for 5 year now, I am originaly from Brasil.
My FI, just gave me the ring, so now we are officialy engaged.
I did not expect none from my family to come all the way to NY, I do not come form a rich family, and I would not want then to spend the money, I know they would not be able to aford, and I dont want then to pull this money out of ther savings.
BUT, I DID EXPECTED MY FATHER TO COME!!!!
I called my father las Sunday to tell him the big news and dates and tell him to get his passaport ready and get the visa close to the wedding. And I offered to pay for everything, plane tickets, hotels, meals, city tours, pocket money whatever he needs, all he had to do was get his docment ready (that I can not do for him).
His answer was, NO because it would be TOO MUCH TROUBLE to get the documents ready, I just bust into tears when he told me that. I could not even think straight so I just hang up the phone.
I know if I wanted to press him I could make him come, but I wanted him to WANT to come. I dont want him to come here cuz I forced him to come.
I cant belive this, I AM HIS ONLY DAUGHTER… one of the most special days in my life and he tell me it is a trouble. My mother die when I was 21 and sinse my mom died, I dont fell like he loves me sometimes, he is not the most afcionate father… sometimes I rather think its ignorance and that he just do not know how to show love.
When I got off the phone my FI saw how upset I was and he said that after our wedding here in NY we should go to Brasil and do a wedding there too with all my family. And his mom and sister are very exited to go to Brasil and meet my family and see where I grow up.
And I cryed even more to see how his family are so suportive and mine is not! His sister and mom are being WAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYY good to us. I can NOT complaing a thing about nobody from his family they treat me like one of them, so much suport and love, I really fell like part of the family, can not belive how lucky I am.
My boss is also being very suportive, I work as a nanny so the mom told me that she is buying me the dress, and the father said he can walk me on the church. and whatever I need in the wedding planing they are here to HELP with everything and anything.
I do realize how lucky I am, I love my fyance with all my heart, he is the love of my life, I love his family they love me. I love my job and my bosses.
If just hurts me that my father can not even bother to go get some documents done to see his only daughter getting married.