Post # 1
I’m fairly new to this board, but I think I just needed to get my thoughts out and you all seem so nice….
Last night my father passed away after 9 brave months of fighting Leukemia. We really thought he had beat it, but he took a turn in the past few weeks and then this weekend everything went downhill so fast.
We were all there with him, and I know he is no longer in pain and no longer suffering, but I’ve never felt pain like this.
He was the best father any girl could ever ask for. He was so excited when we got engaged 2 months ago, and I know he tried so hard to fight so he could be there.
I can’t believe my dad won’t be there for my wedding. Won’t be walking me down the aisle. Won’t get to do the father/daughter dance…..
Has anyone else dealt with this? Losing their father while planning their wedding? Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
I am so sorry for your loss. I really don’t have any advice that I think would help at all. Many prayers and hugs sent your way.
Post # 4
((hugs)) I’m so so so so sorry for your loss sweetie. I lost my grandmother about a year prior to our wedding. It was hard going through the day without her, but I carried her photo in a locket on my bouquet, and I know she would have been so happy to see me. I’m sorry I don’t have a lot of advice other than to just keep him in your heart, and know he’ll be with you there on your day. Sending you lots of love and strength.
Post # 5
Ugh I have no words, my heart aches for you… I am so so so sorry .
Post # 6
I am so so sorry for your loss.
I lost my father suddenly when I was 15 so I have an idea of how you are feeling. I was so sad and am still sad that he was not able to walk me down the aisle or see me marry the wonderful man that is my husband.
My co-worker lost her father to cancer a few short weeks before her wedding. Her brother ended up walking her down the aisle.
I”m so sorry, I hope you can take comfort in the parts of your life that your father was able to be a part of. Like meeting your Fiance.
Post # 7
So deeply sorry for your loss. I haven’t experienced something similiar, I’m sure it’s really heartwrenching. Please know that he’ll always be with you in spirit. ((Hugs))
Post # 8
I lost my daughter 10 years ago to asthma. I miss her terribly and can not help but imagine how much fun she would have had with planning my wedding. She would have truly enjoy it.
I am so very sorry, I know it is very hard. But I firmly believe on your wedding day, your Dad will indeed be there, unseen but there none-the-less.
Post # 9
First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. My father passed away from cancer almost 3 years ago. It has been, by far, the hardest thing I’ve had to endure. I was not engaged at the time (I can’t even imagine how difficult that must be!) but even now it is very difficult to think that he will not be there on my big day, not able to walk me down the aisle, etc. I do plan to do some “in memory” things for our ceremony such as lighting a candle in his honor, having his picture in a locket attached to my bouquet, etc. Just remember he is with you always. I am sending lots of prayers and thoughts your way. Again, my condolences to yourself and your family! Hang in there!
Post # 10
*HUGS* I am so very sorry for your loss. Your father sounds like an amazing man and I’m happy that you and your family were able to be with him even though it must have been difficult. I know it’s not the same, but I believe that he will always be there with you for big moments in spirit. Having seen you grow up and get engaged probably made him the happiest man on earth.
I wish I could relate more directly, but I lost a loved one to cancer last year and there just never seems to be enough someone can say in comfort. He was the closest thing I had to a father growing up and my best friend’s father. Being there with her family when he passed was one of the hardest things I ever experienced, but I would not have it any other way. It was hard to see him so sick. I like to think that everyone being with him helped him to pass knowing that we were there for each other. It was our way of saying it was ok for him to pass on in peace. Stay strong and just try to take things one day at a time. I really wish there was more I could do or say to comfort you.
Post # 11
I am so sorry that you have lost your Dad. I hope you receive comfort from those who are close to you.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry sweetie, I haven’t lost my father but I lost my mother before I got married or engaged. It’s hard losing a parent anyway but when you are getting married it seems even harder.
Post # 13
I’m so sorry to hear! You are in my thoughts and prayers! I know how difficult it can be, I lost my father when I was younger as well.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
I am so sorry for your loss! I cannot even begin to imagine how difficult and painful this loss is. I am sending lot of love and prayers your way. We are all here for you.
Post # 15
sending you ((hugs))… I am so sorry. you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers…
Post # 16
I’m so sorry. I wish I had words to comfort you. He sounds like a great dad. I know it’s a cliche but I really do believe he will be with you at your wedding.