- Okole Maluna
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Last year, when planning first began, we got the sad news that FI’s grandfather had passed away at the fabulous age of 102. We (esp. FI) were VERY close to his grandparents and were obviously devastated that he would miss our wedding day. I couldn’t accompany him on the flight home for the funeral, so he went by himself. I suggested that he ask his grandmother if he could pick out a pair of his grandfather’s cufflinks that he could wear for the wedding so that there was a tangible reminder of Poppa on our wedding day. He came home from the trip and said he found a perfect pair of cufflinks.
A few months later, we found out that his grandmother wouldn’t be able to make it. At 98 years old, there was no way she would be able to tolerate the 5 hour flight to be here. So I asked her if she would be willing to let me wear a piece of her jewelry as my “something borrowed.” She was flattered and gave me free reign to choose through and pick any piece I wanted. I found a perfect pearl/diamond bracelet.
When I told her which one I picked, she looked surprised and said, “Really?” I was nervous–thinking that maybe I had chosen a piece that she wasn’t willing to loan out. I told her I could find something else if she would prefer. She just smiled and said, “No, of course not. It’s just interesting because that bracelet was given to me by Poppa on our 25th wedding anniversary 50 years ago.” So I thought the cool story ended there then she added, “and the cufflinks that your fiancee picked out a few months ago happened to be MY gift to HIM on that same anniversary.” I thought it was so awesome that it turned out that way. Then she said to me, when you get home, take a look at those cufflinks and you’ll see that they match this bracelet perfectly–just like you and <FI> had no idea what the other picked out, my husband and I also had no idea what we picked out for each other–yet they go together so perfectly.”
Last March, we learned that Momma was sick and had passed away also and again, we were both devastated. Imagine my surprise when MIL handed me a small box after my wedding shower–and in it was the bracelet that was supposed to be my “something borrowed.” MIL told me that Momma had told her before she passed that she wanted me to not only still wear the bracelet, but that it was now going to have to be my “something old” instead because she wanted to give it to me as a wedding present. Needless to say, I was incredibly moved….so without further adieu, here is a pic of the two pieces that DH and I wore on our wedding day in honor of their memory:
(The cufflinks, like the bracelet, were pearls with yellow gold, and are engraved with his grandfather’s initials)