YIKES… that isn’t a very extensive / healthy list of choices is it.
First and foremost, I’d sit him down and have a heart-to-heart with him. Tell him that his diet isn’t the healthiest, and at 35 this is gonna start to catch up with him by the time he’s 40. By the time he’s 50 there may be no “forgiveness” in regards to the future… he could very well have a heart attack and die (having seen this myself now a few times to guys of this age… and it sucks for their Wives & Families).
Tell hiim that isn’t what you want for him, and you are sure that isn’t what he wants for you or himself either.
I’ve certainly seen friends & family members struggle with Picky Eaters before… altho most of them have fit into the “Meat & Potatoes” category.
I recommend tho that the solution might be the same, just keep offering up more choice so as to expand their palate.
Tell him that YOU can’t live like this either… you need to make healthier choices for yourself, and don’t plan to be a short-order cook for him. So you guys will need to negotiate a change…
Start with maybe 3 meals a week your way, and 4 meals a week his (altho add on healthier sides that you can eat more of… and he can try or not). So instead of JUST Take Out Pizza, add on a Salad (One with heavy dressing we agree isn’t best… BUT it is a start… Caesar or Italian does make a nice accompaniment to Pizza. And eventually you can get to a point where you can do the Dressing on the side, so they’ll be less of it, etc)
The 3 Nights you cook at home… try a lot of different things. Eventually you’ll find some stuff he’ll like / comment on.
So in a month or twos time when you are Grocery Shopping / Meal Planning, you’ll be able to consult with him… and get feedback.
“The Stuffed Peppers, Cabbage Rolls, Chinese Stir Fry etc… were good, could you make those again”
Hang in there, change can come slowly… but it can happen.
Mr TTR & I have a couple friend, who’s Hubby who now eats a lot more variety (including veggies) than he did 10 years ago. And he’s better off for it health wise… Besides now we all go out together to a lot more interesting Restaurants than we used to, in that his attitude is now more of “willing to try” and as a friend it is very refreshing to see him expand his horizons… AND know that we’ll have him around longer as well.
Hope this helps,