Post # 1
So I had my bridal shower about a month ago, and a couple friends of mine who are lesbians, and in a relationship together were there with us. They were affectionate to each other, but no more then any other couple I’ve seen. For this lets just call then J and K, well J would have her arm around K and K would be leaning into J’s side, they kissed a couple times, but those sweet little pecks. Well I just found out that apparently his family thought they were rude and “Angry Gay” because they were too “all over each other” and they were just trying to get under everyone’s skin. WTF! They were acting just like any other couple I’ve seen, heck they were no more affectionate in public then my FI and I have been ourselves. And what really gets me all fired up is the fact that they never would have said or thought anything about the same showing of affection had it been between a Het couple, or even my FI and I, it was only because my friends are a same sex couple that they even said anything! I mean really, if your gonna have issues with PDA fine, but have the same issues with it for everyone!
Post # 3
I agree. Unfortunately, far too many people are still homophobic, and think that its ok to treat them as less than human beings because they “choose” to be gay. Ummm hello people, you are born with a specific sexual preference!!! It really steams me when people act that way, so I know how you are feeling. I would just ask them to refrain from making derogatory comments about people in front of you, since you obviously do not share the same attitude
Post # 3
Ohhh, homophobes. This is probably best left ignored unless they actually say something to you. If they do I would not hesitate to say exactly what you just said. If they don’t like it they can excercise some tact, bite their snarky tongues and look the other direction.
Post # 4
I’d make it known that any and all snarky, rude, improper attitudes towards ANY ONE is off limits at your wedding. It is a day of TRUCES and anyone who breaks the Golden Rule will be kicked out. 😉
Just make sure you have it passed around (especially amongst his family) in a tactful, polite manner.
Other than that, wait until they say something to you, your FI, or your friends. THEN step in and smack ’em down. 😉
Post # 5
This is a time to play your emotions with intelligence. Before the wedding, just like @Ryna wrote, be tactful about your comments but let everyone know that love shall be the only emotion to your FH and yourself; and all guests in attendance. Any negative attitudes are not welcome, regardless of the importance of the guest (i.e. FMIL).
At the wedding, if there is hate, you have that hate removed. And after, feel free to point out that their ignorant behaviour marked your special day and that was behaviour they CHOOSED to convey, unlike the sexual preferences of your friends.
…this kind of h8 just gives me rage….