Post # 1
I love the hive. I love having you awesome ladies to ask questions of, and get ideas from, get some support from. My Fi does NOT share my affection for the hive.
Yesterday, I posed (another) idea I got off the hive, that I thought would be a great addition to our day (hands around the corner) and suddenly we were argueing.
I have been pretty stressed lately trying to get everything done. My brain wizzes all day with the lists of all the stuff I have to get done and figure out, to make the day awesome. All while still working full time, trying to maintain my LDR w/ my Fi help with a good friends wedding (which is a month before mine)… sigh.
Fi, told me it is all the bee’s fault that I am so stresed becuase if i didn’t come on here I wouldn’t be adding projucts to our already full list, and I could focus on the stuff that we are for sure doing, and not filling up so much brain space on new ideas and things I wish we could do.
I guess he has a point, but seriously I was shocked to hear him say it! I love the hive, I don’t want to give it up, I just have to figure out how to come on here and not get inspired to take on more stuff.
Have any of you gone through this? any advice?
Post # 3
I do this too. I’ll see something and I will run to FI and tell him about it. He just rolls his eyes! Don’t give up the bee, just ya know, share the excited thing with your girlfriends instead of him.
But he might be a tad bit right. You just need to shut your brain off to new ideas! I know that’s easier said than done, but just tell yourself that you’ve got everything you need and want and focus on accomplishing the tasks you’ve laid out for yourself.
Post # 4
This site is both the best and worst thing to happen to me and our wedding! Its users give fantastic advice and amazing ideas, but also make me realize all the things I’m NOT doing and make me want to add them to what I do…stressing me and my wedding list out like crazy.
I see that your wedding is in October, since you are getting close maybe you and your FI can just sit down together and create a master list of the projects that you will do and promise not to add anything on. That way, you can come here for advice, support, and ideas that will make your projects and tasks easier, but not add anything on.
Post # 5
I really haven’t told anyone about the Hive. I want it to be all mine. When I do get great ideas I always tell FI about the Blog I read when researching wedding stuff. However, I feel like I have to do more with my wedding so it can turn out great. That means spending more money than I have. I am so glad everyone gives me (the cheap bride) great ways of doing it inexpensive. But I do agree maybe without the bee I would have just settled for something more simple and plain. :/
Post # 6
J doesn’t care for the bee either. He knows I get upset because there are times I’m in need of answers or I’m just looking for some feedback and I get absolutely nothing. I know it’s just a board, but it gets so frustrating when you are HERE to meet other brides, get advice, etc and you’re pretty much “ignored” in a way.
Post # 7
DH felt that way for awhile, but then he realized that it was keeping me from “only” talking to him about the wedding while keeping me busy when he was away. Sometimes I would take ideas to him from the Bee, but I would show them to him in a different way like from a friend or a magazine. Some he like, some he didn’t. In the end it was about what you two really would like to look back on and remember about your wedding. Now he loves the Hive and finds the Bees to be a source of entertainment, and he knows that I have made friends on here so he just wants me to be happy and enjoy my time with the Hive.
Post # 8
lol, my FI shakes his head when i talk about WB… lol
Post # 9
My FI says I spend too much time doing wedding stuff on the computer. It’s the hive. 🙂
Post # 10
My husband thinks I spend too much time on the computer, but I don’t really tell him much about the Bee so he can’t start stalking me on here. 😉