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I'm 24 and my fiance is 35. Frankly he's young-acting and I'm sort of overly mature so we meet in the middle! :P The only issue we have with it is misunderstood pop culture references and my fear that he'll be an 'old dad' by the time we have kids.
My FI is 38 and I am 29 honestly it has never been an issue for us. The only time we ourselves ever notice is when we listen to music together, he is a total 80's nut and I was 8 when the 80's ended :)
@moosey: Same here my FI looks young and acts just the same , does you FI have kids ? My Fi has a 16 year old son , so it will be and "adjustment" for me to have a teenage step son lol
I think that far in it doesn't even matter. If you were like, 18 it might be a bit weirder imo. I think a ton changes in your 20's, so both of you mostly being out of that period greatly levels the playing field.
9 years really isn't a problem. Other people should mind their own business.
I don't think it's an issue at all! I'm 21 and my fiance is 29. And like a lot of people have been saying, he's a little immature for his age, and I'm a little mature for mine, so it works out perfectly! We do get people that say things when they hear our ages though. Too bad for them! Most people think he's 24 or 25 anyways.
@SkiBunny: This!
My FI and I are 10 years apart and really it's a non-issue.
We don't have that much of a gap [5 years here], but I don't see why it would be a problem. I think it's nicer to have a man a little older since it takes them longer to mature. By now, you're probably both at the same age maturity-wise.
@Melp2017: He has an 11-year-old son, but we unfortunately rarely get to see him so it's kind of a sore spot. It's kind of crazy for me to realize I'm going to have a stepson, and a pre-teen at that, but he's a wonderful kid. :)
age is just a number... I am 41 and my fi is 34....you wouldn't know it tho. he's not a typical immature guy, and I am no typical 40ish woman...i feel more like 3oish and it shows.lol people need to mind their own business and concentrate on their own lives.
My SO's parents are 12 or 13 years apart! So, I don't think it's an issue. And I remember one of my friends from long ago, her mom was like, 14 years older than her dad. Love is love - ignore those idiots making those comments.
My FI and I are 9 years and 9 months apart... To the day! For us, it works out perfectly. He's more practical, I'm more emotional. We balance each other out!
People have made comments from day 1 to both of us (he's too old, she's too young). We know they're wrong, so we don't care. Usually, the people making those judgements have no idea what they're talking about to begin with, or they have alterior motives.
In either case, who cares? As long as you have a happy and healthy relationship, those who care about you and have watched you and your relationship grow will support you.
I don't think thats a big deal at all...in fact, the older I get, the less I think about age, especially for people in their 30's (I am in my late 20's). Don't let it deter you...ignore it and move on...I don't think age will affect your relationship!
Age is only a number, dear :) Don't let other people's opinions & snarky comments get in the way of your own happiness. If he makes you happy, loves you, count your lucky stars, grab him & run! xoxo
I am 30 and my FI is 43. But I have always associated with people older than myself, because I there is a 10 year gap between me sisters and myself. So for us, its just right.
I will be 25 when we get married and my FI will be 37. Age has never been a problem, it's about the way you feel with eachother. Love transcends age! The only thing you want to ensure is that you are both on track for the same short term life goals. For instance, If your FI is older, he may want children earlier than you. It's important to be clear with eachother about what you want, this way you will avoid the tension that could result from such issues.
I feel like the older you are, the less an age gap matters. If you were 18 and he were 27, I might be more concerned, but you're 27 and he's 36. You're definitely of the age where you're not going to be taken advantage of by someone who is much older than you. At this point, age is just a number.
The largest age gap I ever dated was me 19, him 25. It did not work out because of the age difference. I was just blossoming as a social dater, going out and having fun. The guy in question owned his own home, had a kick ass career, and was looking for a wife. After that, I turned 20 and kept my max age for men at 24-25.
When I met FI I was 20 and he was 21. We're 1 yr 9 months apart. When we get married I'll be 24 and he'll be 25.
I'm almost 23 and he's almost 30. Like it's been said before, I'm more mature for my age and he acts younger but has the stability/career/goals that a man his age should have. I think it's only an issue if you don't have the same time line for important things. Ex: he wants kids in the next 3 years and you want to wait 10 years because you're only 20.
you're fine, as long as you have things in common. There is a seven year age gap between me and my FI. My stupid cousins always call him an old man, but he's only 35. I'm 27
I'm 42 and my FI is 30. We've already lived together for 5 years and age has never been a problem for either of us.
I'm 21 and FI is 28. Same story- I'm more mature than most my age while he's always been pretty immature. We balance each other out. Also, we're at the same place career and life wise. The only problems we've had are that he's more ready to have children but we've worked that out.
My Dh is 15 yrs older then me and is getting really difficult now I don't know what to do I still love him but now I understand age is a huge problems ( not for every couple ) !
I dont, but one of my good friends got married at 19 to someone 8 years older than her. I actually think they are pretty well suited to each other. She is a lot older than her age and he is a lot younger than his so they kinda meet in the middle. She is in a very rare position in that at the age of 22, her husband is a fully qualified senior engineer earning $100K a year with a clear career path that will only get brighter so she can afford to start a family young whilst still being able to afford a house, holidays etc and its all because of the large age gap. Good on them I say :)
I'm 35, Groom-to-be is 44. Other than me not getting the odd pop culture reference, we often actually forget our age difference in the first place! Age is just a number.
I'm 18, SO is 29! No one has ever said anything rude such as him being too old or me being too young, and I think it helped that I was upfront with my parents about his age before he even met them, so they knew what they were getting into! As soon as they met him, they fell in love. It was hilarious; he charmed his way into their hearts instantly. In fact, the only ones who mention the difference in age are SO and myself, jokingly in conversation!
Honestly, what other people say is unimportant! If you love him, and he loves you, and you treat each other with respect and honesty, then who cares if it's a 2 month age gap or a 25 year one? Love is love. Period. :)
Age is just a number no matter what others may say to you. I met my fiance when i was 21 and he was 28. At first it felt a bit odd dating someone who was 7 years older than me but now i never think about it. He is the best man i could ever love and has blessed my life incredibly!!
My FI is 5 years older than me
my ex was 9 years older...he is now my personal trainer...
age is just a number
FI is 8 years older than me.
My parents are 10 years apart. They have the happiest marriage I've ever seen.
i'm 9 years older than FI.. we have been together for just over 5 years and going strong! Age was never an issue.. it's only weird when I think about what I was doing at a certain point when I was like in my tweens and he was just a toddler *LOL*
I just turned 23 this month and my FH is 36 and we have a daughter that just turned 2 feb 1st most people dont even notice the age difference with us and are shocked when we say something silly like my FH:"i graduated HS the year she started kindergarten" lol its always fun to mess with people ;)
Fiance and I are 18 years apart. I am 22 and he is 40 and for the first year I felt like everyone and their dog was judging us and looking at us funny. And then I decided that I couldn't care less, I love this man and he was who I was going to be with. As for our relationship, age isn't anything but a number. Its really not any different from any other relationship i've seen. That or it's better than most of the relationships in my family.
Lol, I didn't even realize I had posted in this thread the other day.
Where is my mind?!?!?!?!
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I'm 27 and my FI is 36 . I never saw this as an issue but lately I get a lot of comments ... Saying that is too large of an age gap. Any of you bees have this experience ... What are some of you age differences