- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I ask u bees more for advice then him and my Maid/Matron of Honor and my BM’s!!
Okay okay,so Im on here alot.So whenever Im stumped about something I come on here and trust my bees to help me.So I dont ask him for help with everything.So I dont ask my Maid/Matron of Honor for help with every detail.So I picked out three dresses that my MB’s have to choose from without consulting them about picking those three dresses out in the first place.And so on and so on and so on.
Yes he said all that.
Thats when I told him y.
I ask my bees because they dont know me.They wont be mad if I dont use their advice.I dont feel pressure to use their advice.I can get advice from my bees without it copying a wedding from one of my FI’s relatives wedding.I dont ask for help if I dont need it.I dont need help to decide on every detail.SOmetimes I like going to the store to see whats available first so I can make a decision without someones opinions being thrown my way.And y do they need to be there at all?SOmetimes I like to be at a store by myself so I can decide on what kind of wedding that I would like,cant do that if a person is there saying u can do this and u can do that.Aah just let me think here!And the reason y I picked those dresses without the APPROVAL from my wedding party is because I cannot just give my girls full rein on the decisions!They have a choice between 3 dresses!!All three are long and all of them have straps.And the long and straps was a request from two of them(BM’s)!!And those were the only dresses that looked good there.And we could go somewhere else but Im trying to keep the dresses at a decent price!!2 of the girls are out of jobs right now.So thats y I picked those dresses.And the fact that the girls loved the choices I gave them,I dont see y this is even an issue in the first place!!!
And everybody is very busy.Its hard getting people together!!Fulltime jobs,3rd shift jobs,childre,or people who have said over and over again to let them know when I need help,well I did that one day,and your lovely sister backed out on me when I actually did need her.The first time I asked for help and with something important,she backed out for an event she didnt even know about until the night before or that morning!!!I wanted to tell my Fiance,so take your pick out of the reasons y I like to NOT have people come with me!!!Its such a hassle getting people together and WHEN u actually do have it scheduled one backs out!!!
I was so frustrated with him!!!He made it sound like I need to get help with every decision and detail!That I have to drag someone with me where ever I go.sigh.Then I told him y I dont ask u is because u get frustrated with the details.Or u always say no or just dont GET WHAT IM TRYING TO TELL U.And he keeps on saying that I dont let him make decisions on the wedding.!!I still dont get y he says that!!!!He is in charge of the food,dj and the mens tux’s,and his cool idea about a guest book so far.ANd frankly Im afraid to ask him for help with anything else.U want to know y???
Micheals sells boxes of invites with about 30 or 40 in them.And that includes everything.The rsvp card and envelope,ribbon,precut paper,everything!!The only thing u need to do is print!!SO my Fiance was mad that I bought three of those packages.He was thinking of using up the supplies in the first package and then buying paper and cut and whatever else with that,copying the original design!!!I was like are u insane!?!U want us to send out invites that dont match??We would have to cut the paper,buy more envelopes and small rsvp envelops,and ribbon and try to copy what was originally in the first package?!?!?!I told him u cant do that,its sooo ghetto!!Takcy,cheap and just plain weird!Who does that???!!!!!
U see y Im afraid to get him involved with the smaller details??!!!! What would he come up with??And then he gets flustered about the details!
I just hate how he made things sound.That I should get help making every decision,but only from him or from my wedding party!!I should ask him more!!Ha!
Can u tell Im frustrated??
Bees,am I the only one here who this has happned to?Has your Fiance wanted u less on here and talking more about the wedding with your wedding party and him??Its so odd.