Post # 1
We’ve been here in Portland for a year, now. It’s been nice not having to worry about packing up and moving within the next few months like I was previously doing. I like it here, and I feel like we are just now finally getting settled and into the swing of things.
But now I feel guilty because my FI told me last night the only reason we have stayed here this long is because I like it so much. Our lease is up again in the spring (we re-signed for a year after our first 6 months) and my FI really wants to move back to Washington.
In parts I won’t mind because most of our family is there (with the exception of my Mom). I’d be able to catch up with old friends and we could still be on our own and visit his parents when he wanted. But where I know we can transfer within our jobs if there are any hiring in the area, it also scares me to work at a different store. Our hours won’t be garunteed. What if there is no way for me to transfer and I can’t find another job? We have a dog and a cat. It’s hard to find places that take both pets.
It’s a very scary thing for me, but if my FI is unhappy here, I want us to be where he is happy. He can go to community college in pretty much any city. Most of the apartments there are cheaper, too so we’d save money. I guess I know what we’re doing…= /
Post # 3
Sorry to hear that, moving is no fun. I know you want your FI to be happy, just make sure you are happy too! Maybe you could talk to him and make sure that if you do move, that you’ll stay here for a while so you don’t feel like your life is in constant upheaval every year. See where he sees him settling, as well as where you see yourself settling.
Post # 4
Thank you. We are both very familiar with the area we are thinking of moving to. In fact, it’s only about 30 minuets away from where we will be having our wedding, and about 40 minuets from my hometown. We’d be going to back to family and old friends. I’m just worried about if I’ll be able to transfer for my job and all that wonderful economy stuff.
Post # 5
Yeah and depending on how deep you are into wedding planning it could definitely be crazy. But as a fellow Washingtonian I can’t say too much about not moving here 😉
Post # 6
Deciding where to live is such a huge part of being in a serious relationship! I hope you two can find a place that makes you both happy. You’re right to point out that there’s more to consider in making a big move … like can you find work. Good luck!
We moved halfway across the country together, and I’d be ready to try a new place, but it’s not practical right now. I want to find a place we can see ourselves staying for a while, getting a house, etc.