- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
This is my fisrt post, and i hate that its an upsetting one, but im really at a loss here.
The situation is this: We are getting marrried in july, and its a “destination wedding” live in chicago, married in vt. small ceremony, and nothing formal AT ALL. We want this to be a party, a celebration of our love and our friends. Sounds easy, right?
wrong. Even with informal gatherings, and a real aversion to typical wedding fare, I have found that even offbeat weddings call for planning. I also think we should be sensitive with asking people to travel from all over the country ( world even ) and have something wonderful to offer in the way of food and entertainment. its only fair, right?
So, food, places for people to stay, tents and tables ( outdoor wedding on my moms property ) bug detterrants, lighting, music, decor, etc are all a factor. ( or not, but hey i still want things to be lovely )
I jumped into planning, as I was really excited, and we originally agreed to both be invested. I began doing research, coming up with ideas, asking his opinion, and I havent got much back in the way of support. Also, whenever I have a concern, idea, question, He keeps telling me we have plenty of time, and we dont have to talk about this now. ok… so when?
Am i crazy? am I beginnign the early stages of planning too early: looking at caterers in thae area – we both have very specific diets, figuring out ways to budget things, asking our friends with photog skills, cooking skills if they would participate next year?
Another twist to the timing is he is a sucessful musician, about to record another album this fall, as well as tour south america directly after… he will also be touring a lot next year. I know I will be left on my own for a while and Im used to it, but I thoght if we could iron out some solid plans before he gets into work mode at least I could go ahead and work on it wthout feeling guilty about not having his input.
It seems like everytime I bring up the wedding, we end up fighting about it. Really bad fighting. Am I obsessing too much about planning? admittedly i am a control freak, but we both travel so much, all of our freinds are scattered across the world, and i really dont want to be in panic mode next year, scrambling o find a crappy caterer that gougn to serve sh*tty food for the 5 people there because we didnt get everything organized to allow our friends to actually make it.
Any advice is helpful. should I chill out? Has anyone else experienced this? I never thought Id be this kind of bride 🙁
thanks for reading my ramble