- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2016
I am engaged to a man with two teenage daughters(15 and 16). They had a dog who used their entire house as a toilet. His ex wife has the dog now and drops it off at his house at night so the girls can sleep with it while she goes to work. My mother, sister and I just spent five days cleaning up dog turds and urine soaked bedding tin the girls’ bedrooms so we could repaint and redo them for the girls. The dog has stayed at his exes’ apartment this entire time with her roommate. I have suggested to my fiance that the dog doesn’t come over at night. The girls can walk 2 blocks to their mother’s apartment and visit the dog. The ex called up the girls and told them that their father wouldn’t let the dog come over. She ruined the girls’ vacation and I wonder what kind of woman wants her children sleeping in a bedroom full of dog turds on urine soaked bedding and pillows and what kind of message does this send to the girls. The oldest is proclaiming that she will devote herself to this ten year old dog and continue sleeping with him. Their mother knows this dog is not housebroken and has used the dog as a tool to defy their father’s wishes. He wants a clean home for the girls and he has physical placement.
I am a double transplant recipient and on immunosuppressants. I really should not be exposed to this kind of filth. I worry that the girls’ will resent me and continue to smuggle the dog into the house against our wishes. We have sent both girls to a counseler and their mother is upset about that too. Any suggestions of how to deal with the ex and the girls would be appreciated.