My fiance broke a promise.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Your being silly, and you can hardly blame the guy for acting like a defiant teen when you’re acting like his mother. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@NatalieTSainz:  I don’t know. I would be kind of peeved that he came home later than he said he would, but I wouldn’t let it blow up into a huge argument. Pick your battles. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

If you knew he’d be longer than 40 minutes, why did you make him promise something you thought he couldn’t keep? It’s like setting yourself up to be disappointed. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It seems like a silly thing to be upset over. Yes, he broke a stupid promise, but if you don’t live together (the vibe I get is that he went to the bar while you drove back to your place) then it really doesn’t matter what time he gets in because he’s not going to wake up up by stumbling in from the bar. Be annoyed, say “hey, if you aren’t going to do it, then don’t promise you will” and just move on. There is no reason to hold a grude over something this silly.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@honie309:  +1

@NatalieTSainz:  This would piss me off a tad and I would let him know….but I wouldn’t turn it into an ordeal either. A simple “hey, I don’t appreciate you staying out all night when you told me you wouldnt, I waited up, etc. Next time, just be real with me and I’ll go make plans of my own.”

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

This is completely silly. Why does he even need to promise anything in the first place? Cant he just go to the bar and have a good time? He isn’t 10 years old and you aren’t his mother. 

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would be very disappointed if my fiancé said he would be home at 11 pm but didn’t get home until 2:20 am. However, if he said he was going out and would get in at 2:20 am or didn’t know when he would get in, I wouldn’t be bothered – I’d just know not to stay up for him!

Does it really matter how late he stays out with his friends?

It’s rubbish he didn’t tell you an accurate time but I’m not sure why he had to be home at 11 pm in the first place…

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@drummerbride:  +100000000000000

Is he your fiance or your child? I don’t understand why you girls can’t allow these men who you want to be married to and be the father to your unborn children go out and have some fun with his friends as if you don’t trust him to do the right thing and bring himself home when he’s done. 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why does it matter how long he is out for? I think its a silly thing to be upset about and he shouldn’t have to promise he will be home when you want him home in the first place. He’s a grown man not your little boy.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@NatalieTSainz:  Basing your argument on the fact that “it’s the principle that counts” is going to get you no where fast. If he broke a promise to something uber important and left you high and dry without a warning and it affected things to a certain degree, then yea, you’d have an argument. But not on the basis of the promise, it would be all the things he literally did wrong. 

In this case, you have the only thing he did wrong as “break a promise” which was come home later than expected. Honestly, it almost seems like you’re trying to pick a fight with him. 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@NatalieTSainz:  I dated a guy who was NEVER home when he said he would be, never picked me up on time for dates and never met up with me on time when we were meeting somewhere…and he always would start it with “I’ll be there at ____o’clock, I promise” then he’d be an hour late because he was with his friends or wouldnt show up entirely because he got too busy. Obviously that didnt last long.

Unless your guys is ^^that^^ bad, I would chalk it up to one-time thing.

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