- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
IM so devastated ,I have been in a relationship for 3.8 years and was engaged to be married in July 2014. The last 6 weeks have been the worse 6 weeks of my life.
My fiance presented me with a prenup which we argued terribly about because i thought it was very one sided and seemed that he was scared to even be married.
After that he said that he was scared of marriage, scared of becoming bored of me and cheating, scared of divorce. scared of being with someone forever. He is 41 years old and never been married and im 26. He tells me im the best sex hes had in his life so how the hell can he then say he is scared of becoming bored. He says he needs time to figure out what he wants in life. He says he loves me still but he doesnt know if he can make the commitment. He asked me to move out because I am so upset and he says if we carry on the way we are we will end up breaking up for sure. Seems to me that he is breaking up with me now.
He is asking me to move out but saying that he wants to get his head straight and beable to come back to me. Yet he isnt sure if he will. I hate him and love him so much right now it kills me. Its come at a very very stresssful work time for me aswell and im so devastated.
This morning he is messaging me saying ” he doesnt know how he will be able to handle being apart and that he this is all so hard for him”
If someone loves you and doesnt know how they can handle being apart from you. Then surely they would decide to marry you, not tell you to move out and be single and that they cant commit to you.
I never i a million years thought he would treat me this way and im so upset and confused. He just shuts down when I try and talk to him. I hate him so much.
Last night he said his friends were going out and that even though its was just his guy friends that we should just go for something to eat and a drink together with them. I assumed he was being nice by invitiing me along as he has been at work dinners all week so we hadnt seen one another . So i agreed, he came home and tried to drop me an hour before by saying ” its a boy night” and he thought i would understand and he only invited me because he was scared of me going mental about it. So I got really angry as I could of made plans and said he is selfish and I actually thought he was inviting me to show he wants to make an effort with me not becaues he is too much of a coward to say he is going out. and he just sat there and didnt say anything and farted loudly(on purpose) , he disgusts me, how can this man be someone who I said I would marry. This experience has scared me so much. I shows you can never really know a person.
BUT on the flip side, he also came home with expensive sunglasses he had bought for me AND gone totally out of his way to pick me up a special piece i need to build my guinea pig’s cage. NOTHING MAKES SENSE
He is starting in therapy today for “commitment issues” but i dont even see the point now, he has destroyed what we have together and ive lost so much respect for a man I thought i was going to spend the rest of my life with”.