Post # 1
…4 days before our wedding. On Wednesday evening we went to the airport at 11pm to pick up his Aunt and Cousins who were flying in from California. As we were waiting I noticed his left eye wasn’t blinking and asked him if it was bothering him. He said he didn’t notice but it hadn’t gone away when we went to bed. The next morning I left to get my nails done and have a girls day with my sisters. At 12 he called me and said he was at the ER because the whole left side of his face was now not working.
I rushed there and 5 hours later the Dr. confirmed that he had Bells Palsy and his face would not be healed by our wedding day. We were heartbroken. If any of the little details had gone wrong we both knew that wasn’t important. However, I was now going to miss seeing my soon-to-be Husband’s smile as I walk down the aisle. A lot of the emotions would be missed by me and our photographer. After one bad day we woke up and realised that there was nothing we could do, this was how it was going to be. We put a lot of time and money into this one day and we sure as hell were going to enjoy it. And that we did, the day was perfect 🙂
To all of you stressing over those minor details, just be thankful your Fiance will be able to look and smile at you when you walk down the aisle. It will be over faster than you know (I’m sure you’ve heard that before, it is so true).
Post # 3
@foreverthine: It is disappointing, but I’m sure you were thrilled when you finally got the diagnosis and it wasn’t a stroke. It must have been scary for you both.
Post # 4
Awww I’m sorry! Two of my friends (both men) have had BP and it took a few months but they both made full recoveries. 🙂
Post # 5
@foreverthine: I’m glad you two were strong as a couple and overcame together. That is the epitome of what a wedding is supposed to embody, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health. Thank you for being the example to all of us who get caught up in the fantasy and let the true meaning slip away.
Post # 6
Do they know what caused it? Before I found out that I had Lyme, I started having BP. It goes along with the neurological aspect of the disease. Hope all is well.
Post # 7
@foreverthine: was there something that triggered it? I know it can be a temporary side effect of various types of dental work (i’ve been warned about it more than once). I have a friend who had it after having his wisdom teeth out and it began to reverse much more quickly than they thought. It was a while before he was completely back to normal but he didn’t look like his face was half paralyzed for more than a day or 2.
Post # 8
@Glenda_the_good_witch: No we have no idea. He has to make a doctors appointment with his family doctor soon, hopefully it will be looked into!
Post # 9
@MsGinkgo: They think it was just stress, but if were being honest I don’t think he was that stressed!! There was no dental work done lately but hopefully we can find out what it is. It is scary to not know!
Post # 10
Your poor husband! I’m so sorry, that’s definitely a major bump in the road right before your big day. It can be very difficult to pinpoint the exact cause of BP if there wasn’t some sort of obvious trauma or disorder underlying it. Positive thoughts your way, I hope he makes a speedy and full recovery!
Post # 11
@foreverthine: ha I have recurrent bells palsy and my biggest fear is that it will come back before the wedding. My first occurrence was the worst- complete paralysis on my left side above the neck for about 7-8 months. Subsequent episodes have been not as bad- usually a lot of tingling, my eye twitching constantly, some loss of taste. Its always on the same side and is ALWAYS triggered my stress and sleep deprivation. My plan is to just try to be as chill as possible and to get lots of sleep for the next month! In the end, it’s not something he (or I!) could control so really, you just have to roll with the punches.
Congrats on your recent marriage! If you FI has questions about the condition, PM me- I’ve done a ton of research because I had it for so long and because it keeps creeping back in!
Post # 12
My soon to be sister in law has it right now, actually. She got it about 2 months ago and started as an ear ache and got worse until it affected her face. She is almost back to normal now. 🙂 She also was going through a lot of stress at the time (seperation from her husband with a newborn).
Post # 13
Make sure he is tested for Lyme. Not something you want to let go.
Post # 14
Make sure he is tested for Lyme’s Disease and also Diabetes. It is caused by excessive stress a lot though as well.
Post # 15
As someone who had BP before, I feel for your DH! It happened a month before my friend’s wedding. Make sure he’s taking what he needs to take and rest. He’ll be okay!
Post # 16
@foreverthine: Does he sleep with a fan on him? I’ve always slept with a fan and people are constantly warning me that it can cause Bell’s Palsy, but I’m not sure if thats just an urban legend or not.