(Closed) My fiance hates my dress?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Do I get a new dress?
    Yes, you probably should. : (34 votes)
    27 %
    Of course not, silly! : (91 votes)
    73 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I am sure you could wear a potato sack and your FI would still think you looked beautiful. I think guys just are insensitive and don’t get it sometimes! I think that dress is BEAUTIFUL!

    Post # 4
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Ouch. That really sucks :/ If you REALLY love this dress, and like him, it’s the ONE for you, I say keep it. Were you having second thoughts BEFORE cousins wedding? If not, I say put it on again, and see how it feels. I really don’t think he’s going to pay THAT much attention to the dress cause he’s marrying YOU, not the dress. 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Oh that is really a difficult, emotional situation!

    I almost bought a taffeta dress then found out that my FI hates taffeta!

    Keep the dress if you love it!  Yours is better quality and it will look totally different on you than your cousin.

     

    Post # 6
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    128 posts
    Blushing bee

    what did the dress look like that he liked? how was it different?. Im sure it be ok. the dress is beautiful. maybe there was something else behind his unkind words. but it sounds to me like he really love you and therefore he will love you in any dress that you choose.  take adeep breath and give it a couple of days. don’t do anything right away.

    Post # 7
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    Newbee

    Let me tell you a story…..

    I was a “fluffy” bride.  Prior to my wedding I purchased a dress off ebay because I just didn’t want to endure going to a store to try them on.  For months prior to the wedding I stressed and worried because I thought my dress wasn’t special enough to me and wasn’t pretty enough because I “settled”.  Everyone around me assured me that I was pretty in my dress and I was so unsure. Til the day of the wedding.

    I came down the aisle in my cupcake dress to a smiling groom.  We proceeded through the ceremony and after the unity candle we leaned at the altar. My husband leaned over and whispered to me that I was so beautiful.  That is my absolute favorite memory of the day. He later told me it had nothing to  do with my dress but was my face and the glow. 

    My point–if you love your dress, feel good in the dress, and are thrilled on your wedding day all he will see is you and think you are beautiful.  You could probably wear a sack and he would still think you are the most gorgeous woman on earth and be the proudest man that gets to marry you. 

    Wishing you luck!!

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    OK…I’m not going to tell you what you “should” do.

    I’m going to tell you what *I* would do.

    I’d get a new dress…

    Sorry… Undecided

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Aww I’m sorry :(. The same exact dress would look different on every girl. Plus he hasn’t seen the dress on you. Just knowing what outfit someone is going to wear doesn’t mean they’ll know exactly how you’ll look wearing it. I think that if it bothers you he knows what dress you’re wearing, see if you can exchange it for a different one. I’d talk to him & say I’ve been thinking about it & would rather get a dress that you didn’t know what it looked like. Don’t say its because he thinks the dress is ugly, just that he already knows what it looks like & you want it to be a surprise.

    You said he emailed you a sample dress of one he liked, well, he’ll have no idea how that looks on you. I mean, what if you get that one & it doesn’t compliment you as well as your current dress. So, if you really like your current dress, stay with it. I’m sure he’ll love it when he sees it on you.

    do you have a photo of the knock off dress?

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Don’t get a new dress.   You picked that dress because YOU liked it.  Maybe I’m a b****, but I really didn’t care what my FI thought of my dress.  I picked what I wanted.  I think your FI will like whatever you wear because you will be in it.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    PSA to grooms:  If you don’t want to see the dress before the wedding, DON’T MAKE COMMENTS ANOUT DRESSES.  Sheesh.

    My FH was the same way – had a million and one opinions about what he thought a wedding dress “should” look like.  Well, you know what?  I knew my dress the second I tried it on.  Same way I knew he was the one.  Same way you knew about both, too.  So, wear your dress with pride and confidence.  All he will see is that confidence and bridal glow and all the love he has for you.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Amen, Tulip!

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m sure even if you stood side by side he might not be able to tell the difference!!  Guys can be silly – I’m sure he’ll think you look amazing no matter what!  Even if he knows, no biggie – its the moment that matters.  That moment you see each other at the ceremony – no matter if you had a first look or shopped together!  If you love it, it’ll show on your face and you’ll look stunning!

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    that sound’s like something my husband would say to me, he says things like that because it is his way of complimenting me, ‘her dress is ugly’ is his way of saying ‘your dress is beautiful’… lol guys are dumb!!! and maybe it just was a bad knockoff and looked ugly on her, i’m sure it will look amazing on you, and there is a very good chance that he won’t even notice that they were even similar because men don’t always make that connection

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee

    I think many times, the same dress can look so different on different women/figures. And I also think that your beautiful face/smile is going to be what he really pays attention to. Are you doing a different hairstyle/veil/hairpiece/jewelry/accessories than her? I bet you are.   🙂

    Post # 16
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    @mgray002:  You’re forgetting one thing…he’s a guy! Odds are, he’s not going to remember!  Your wedding is still almost a year away so when he sees you walking down the aisle towards him, he will be in awe of how absolutely radiant and beautiful you are and in the excitement of it all, nothing else will matter.  It will be as if he is seeing it for the first time and I’m sure you are going to take his breath away!! 

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