My fiance is an only child, how to handle my FMIL?

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My fiance is an only child, how to handle my FMIL?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships

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so2203 July 31, 2010

Hello ladies,

My fiance is an only child and my FMIL is absolutely in love with his son. And judging from my interactions with her so far, I am already feeling worried about the way she will be involved in our lives. Her whole world revolves around her son. She is not mean to me but I feel like some little things can create issues between us in the future. Any tips/advice on how to handle this situation? Or avoid future issues?

Thanks!

2 years ago

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2PeasinaPod Philadelphia

How is your FI towards his mom? Can he stand up to her and let her know when she's butting into your relationship? The way he acts will be how issues will be handled in the future.

Also, do you get along with your FMIL? If so, you might be able to distract her from giving so much attention to your FI by spending time with her one on one...

2 years ago

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LatteLove June 19, 2009 Chicago/San Diego

My MIL is extremely focused on her sons (she has two) and I was very nervous about getting married and moving 6 minutes away from her, but things have been great!

I thin the two important things you should do is sit down you fiance for a talk and explain your fears and apprehensions so he is extra sensitive about it (he needs to be on your side!)

Then I would also make a concerted effort to reach out to his mom, spend time together, visit with her at her house or have his parent(s?) over for dinner. The key is to nip it in the bud and kill her with kindness. Make her feel like you're becoming her new family!

I hope it all goes smoothly!

2 years ago