WHATEVS

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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3442 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oh gosh, sounds like something my husband would do.

Hang in there. He’ll probably apologize later. He was probably just nervous & taking it out on you.

 

Post # 4
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1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@BrideToBe14:  You should have given him the chance to decide whether to ask questions on his own. I get that you want to help, but what you did was something his mom would have done. In the future, sit down ahead of time and talk things over at that point – then allow him to go ahead and do what he feel is appropriate.

Post # 5
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855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@BrideToBe14:  How about you let him handle getting a job all on his own instead of butting in on his interview? Seriously, are you his fiance or his mom?

 

As a supervisor, you probably also know that someone who needs to bring someone with on an interview is a sure fire way NOT to get a job, so if you want to critique his interviewing skills, do it AFTER the call is terminated.

 

Sorry, I don’t see him being an ass. You were wrong, so go apologize. If you’re irritated by being the breadwinner, then call off the marriage. An unemployed individual shouldn’t be planning a wedding anyway. He should be looking for a job.

 

Post # 9
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855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@BrideToBe14:  I can probably guarantee you that I’ve been interviewing longer than you’ve been alive and asking questions doesn’t make or break getting a job and of course you’d disagree. I don’t agree with you. However if I told you he was wrong, you’d agree with THAT. LOL

Post # 10
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Yeah, I agree with loggerhead. He’s obviously under enough pressure, and doesn’t need you listening in and mouthing to him. It’s HIS interview, let him take care of his shit. Was it rude of him to tell you to shut the fuck up? Yes, but you were being rude kind of rude too. I’d tell him you don’t appreciate him cursing at you, but you need to recognize you were out of line and are  being uppity with your “I’m the bread winner, listen to me”

Post # 11
Member
855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@BrideToBe14:  HE HEARD YOU. That’s all that mattered. My word

Post # 13
Member
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It was mean of him to mouth that to you, but I can understand that it probably stressed him out to have you coaching him DURING his interview. He was probably feeling a bit rattled anyway. I mean, he was in the middle of an interview. And since you had to tell him to ask questions, it’s unlikely he had any prepared–which probably made him feel worse. Maybe the solution is to practice interviewing with him ahead of time in the future. That way you can impart your wisdom– I mean, you were right that he needed to ask questions, and you probably have other good advice too– but then he won’t feel put on the spot. 

 

Post # 14
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3442 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@BrideToBe14:  I also wanted to add that those people above are being totally rude to you, and you should ignore them.

Giving him advice might have annoyed him, but it’s not acceptable for him to tell you to “Shut the fuck up.”

Anybody who thinks that kind of language is acceptable in response to being annoyed clearly doesn’t understand healthy communication.

 

Post # 15
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1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@DJones69:  Jesus, you are beyond rude and harsh.  She’s just venting a little; you don’t have to be so mean.  And STFU about the unemployed not deserving a wedding.  I was unemployed when I was married and I was just as deserving of my special day as any other bride/groom.

Post # 16
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312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@BrideToBe14:  Oh hon, i’m going to guess that you are super stressed by the fact that he’s out of work and looking for a job. And on top of that you’re probably shaken by the way he reacted to you. I totally understand that. BUUUUT I think in his shoes I would’ve reacted the same way, because it’s stressful enough to be interviewing without having someone trying to coach you on the side. Yes, you were right, he should’ve asked a question — but if I were you, I would let this drop ASAP!

Fingers crossed for you both that he lands the job!

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