My Fiance is obsessed with FASHION and spending money.

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

$300 really isn’t very much for a men’s suit, you could easily spend 1k+ on a nice suit.  I admire your thriftiness but your man really isn’t spending very much money

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

He’ll get to wear that suit again.  Well in MY mind … he better.  That was the deal DH and I made, new suit you better wear it until it’s worn out lol.  It does get stressful when you start writing down the actual c ost and seeing it on paper.  Take a breath, and maybe he can get crazy socks on sale.  Hang in there!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I agree that I don’t think he’s spending much money. My guy’s suit will likely be more than your FI’s whole look, even if he gets everything he wants.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

If you love it about him, don’t try to change it. <3

$300 is *incredibly* reasonable for a man’s suit. My DH’s cost about $800.

A $40 bowtie isn’t that bad, either. I don’t know a lot of guys that wear bowties, but the tie my dad wore to my wedding was $125. (He pitched a fit about that, but my mom won out in the end.)

I think you should try to cut him a break. You said he’s really excited about this, and it only happens ONCE.

As a sidenote, I think you are being INCREDIBLY thrifty, so props to you for finding such good bargains on stuff!

Post # 7
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Honey bee

Honestly, that doesn’t seem like very much for a suit, tie and shoes. Suits are expensive, and can be worn again. IMO, every man should own a nice, tailored suit, or two.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@DarthBetty:  The stuff he bought seems to be on the lower end of expensive. I thought you were going to post he wants an Armani suit for a few grand, $1,000 dress shoes, etc. I don’t see how he can buy a suit for less than $300. Most men can’t buy decent dress shoes (from an ok department store) for much under $200.

With that said, budget IS important. If this is it, then let him have it… it’s not worth the argument. If, however, he keeps wanting to go over budget on everything then that’s a big problem. You don’t want to start your married life in debt.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If 300 is too much in your mind, why don’t you have him rent a suit?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldn’t worry about him overshadowing you. At every wedding I’ve been to, all eyes are always on the bride, regardless if the groom is wearing a tux, a suit or a kilt!

If his suit is a good basic suit that he can wear again and again, I think that $300 is worth the investment. Honestly, I think that you can tell when a suit is super cheap (e.g. $100) and a nice suit really makes the difference. At least he cares about his appearance. Smile

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

If you don’t have it .. you don’t have it.  I’m assuming the suit has been altered and you can’t take it back.  I would say no to the shoes and the rest of his look and hit Good Will or craigslist.  DH gets like this about electronics, he will save us into the poor house with all the deals he gets, but you’re still spending money.

I would lay it out for him, write it down and let him SEE it.  Maybe that would help. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Assuming that everything he’s buying can be worn again, I don’t think it sounds like he’s doing too badly. It’s harder to reuse a wedding dress than a man’s suit and dress shoes. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

If you are really stressing out on this, maybe you need to let him know that his spending is affecting the way you feel about the wedding? Could he wear a pair of shoes that he owns already? Could he return stuff he already bought? Go to a thrift store to get things cheaper?

As for how much a regular suit costs, it’s totally true. Most suits are pretty damn pricey. My FI’s suits usually cost at least $600, and some of those are on sale- yikes! So if your FI was really set on getting a suit, and you agreed, then $300 for a whole suit IS a good deal- sorry if that’s not what you wanted to hear!

For our wedding, my two dresses cost about $150 + ~100 for alterations (handmade from etsy and eshakti, booya!), and my shoes were $70 (on a great sale at an outlet mall). My FI will be wearing a great suit, but it’s one he already owns. Same for his shoes. It’s just what we both agreed on.

I think you’re just stressing out, and if you can afford it, then you need to voice your concerns but also relax some. If you can’t afford it at all, then you need to put your foot down, return some stuff, and firmly remind your FI about your budget.

Good luck!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Is he aware of the budget, like, line by line? I understand that in context it sounds like he’s not spending that much, but if you don’t have money for it, then you don’t have money for it and he needs to a.) be made aware of that and b.) RESPECT that.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

it’s awful that he’s overspending from your budget, but a 300 suit and 100 shoes are not expensive at all, and if he managed to get something GOOD for that price he’s not a bad shopper

 

that’s done, but from now on maybe have a talk to him and propose that you manage the budget since you’re more conscious?

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