My fiance' is opposed to an outdoor ceremony… help!!!

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
4076 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@atoney86:  I am sorry, it really depends on the weather. If it is scortching hot or humid, wearing a suit for 30 minutes outside sounds quite torturous. Especially if you get all sticky and then have to spend the rest of the day in your now dank clothes. Ick. As a lady, I’d be concerned my makeup would melt

Ay chance you could move the wedding month to later in the year?

Post # 4
2092 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Outdoor weddings are lovely and I understand your desire to have one, but I’m gonna have to agree with your fiance on this one. Granted, I’m in Texas so it may be a different story, but an outdoor wedding in August in the South just sounds like a recipe for disaster. I wouldn’t call 110 degrees a little heat, and that’s what happens in August around here! :p Also, people would probably be outside more than 30 minutes. What about guests that arrive early? I usually get to weddings around 20-30 minutes early. Then what if it doesn’t start right on time? All kinds of what-ifs to deal with!

Post # 5
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m sure you will get lots of great reasons from other bees, but I will have to say I’m on your FIs team, sorry. I am vehemently opposed to outdoor weddings, but I’m a clean freak with OCD tendencies. Just thinking about sweating off my carefully applied makeup and ending up with a stringy mess of hair just makes me shudder. Not to mention fighting off Mosquitos and all the other creepy insects that live outside. Give me a temperature controlled environment any day! 🙂

Post # 6
7055 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly I agree with your fiance. There are many possible beautiful indoor venues. It is more comfortable for the guests, and you don’t have to worry about the possibility of rain or a heat wave.

In the end though, you two have to agree or compromise. There is no right or wrong answer.

Post # 7
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Totally agree with fiance’. Outdoor weddings+August = bad news. Doesn’t matter the length. People will be waiting before and after so it will be longer. Don’t risk it.

Post # 8
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m on your team. maybe compromise and do outdoor but under some sort of tent, where you can have fans?

Post # 9
974 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@atoney86:  Can you compromise by finding a place with a big patio or lots of windows? I have seen some similar venues that were really beautiful and then you still feel surrounded by nature but you don’t have to worry about all of the elements.

Post # 10
3889 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

As a guest, I really wouldn’t love 30 minutes in August in Georgia for a ceremony. Most folks will get there a bit early, and most will need a few minutes after the ceremony to flow out of the ceremony area, so really you’re looking at 45-60 minutes. In dressy clothes, suit or at least tie for the gents. That’s too long. If you must have an outdoor ceremony, do early morning or evening (7pm perhaps) and limit it to 15 minute ceremony, short processional too. Or pick a more temperate time of year. It’s just generally not pleasant, and you’re spending a lot of effort and money on your wedding. Your guests’ first comment/memory shouldn’t be about the heat.

Post # 11
2897 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i can see both sides of this. it’s doable, but it’s not the most ideal situation.

we had an outdoor reception in mid-september and it was unseasonably hot on my wedding day (like, 101 degrees) and while i don’t think it ruined our day at all (i know it was hot, but it’s not something i really remember if that makes sense), it was definitely not what we had hoped for.

my brother is getting married and wants both the wedding and reception to be outside in august. we’re trying to talk him out of it because the hot weather on my wedding day was not expected, but in august you’re guaranteed at least 100 degrees. probably closer to 110.

if you decide to go ahead with it, make sure you do as much as you can to keep your guests as comfortable as possible: provide plenty of cold water, fans (you can do the kind that are also programs, so you can knock out two birds with one stone), rent some umbrellas or tents to provide extra shade.

and one last thing: even tho it was hot as hell on my wedding day, everyone still had a great time! we had great food, great music, and the sun did eventually go down, haha.

good luck!

Post # 12
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Psh! We have no backup plan. 🙂 I was considering parasols, but maybe we’d be better off with umbrella’s…

Post # 13
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If you want to do an outdoor wedding, have your ceremony earlier or later in the year when temps will be milder. I think it would be a bad idea to plan an outdoor wedding in Georgia for August, which is almost guaranteed to be a very hot and humid time of year. 

I originally was thinking of doing an outdoor ceremony but decided I didn’t want to take a chance on the weather. I ended up finding a gorgeous church instead and it was a nice setting without any weather worries.


Post # 14
10906 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Your wedding is  still 14 months away.  Have you already made non-refundable deposits, or could you possibly change your wedding to a cooler month such as April or October?

I should note that I had an outdoor wedding.  I was trying to decide between a date in May and one in June.  I literally looked through 20 YEARS worth of weather data  — including rainfall — before I decided.  Temperatures on the potential June date were consistently in the 90s. Temperatures in May were consistently in the 70s. 

I chose the May date.  It was 96 degrees.  So much for history, lol.

Post # 15
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I agree with your FI, an outdoor wedding in August is bad news. I would move your date to later in the year or find an indoor venue. 

Post # 16
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@atoney86:  Suits are extremely hot in the sun, especially black ones.  He may be worried about sweating through his shirt, and his hair being drenched with sweat, and looking terrible for the pictures, in addition to being fabulously uncomfortable.  Perhaps you can find out exactly what he’s envisioning/imagining it being and feeling like, and try to find a way to alleviate the root issue.

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