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There was just a poll about this, I'll see if I can find it. I think it is very cool! I wanted my husband to take my last as part of his middle, but got shot down. :( I think you announce with his name first. "Mr and Mrs HisNAME and HerName LastName."
I think it's really cool. We both took each other's last names as second middle names... not exactly the same, but I'm so happy that we both have each other's names!
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/he-takes-her-last-name
This is the post I was talking about! You might find it interesting.
Edited to add: Sorry there are negative comment are the article. I meant the supportive bee comments below!
I love this! I think your name should be announced first and it sounds great. I wish I could get my fiance to use my name, but he's pretty attached to his. :)
I would LOVE if my FI took my name as a last, but he is taking it as a middle name for himself, which is the next best thing for me :)
And i think the way you wrote it works! No need to overthink it.
wow - does his male friends know about this and whats their reaction??? i cant imagine an aussie bloke doing that
That's fantastic! I think you can announce in what ever order you want, sometimes one name sounds better first depending on what they are.
@eloping: I thought there'd be a hullabaloo as well, but nope. Not a one! The only elevated (yet good-natured) reaction we've received thus far was from his Mom who stated "...the whole reason I kept that name was because it was yours!" We had a good laugh.
I like the way you wrote it too. Nice! My fiance has said he wants to combine our names, so we might end up being Mr. and Mrs. Jack and Jane MyLastName HisLastName.
I LOVE that your FH is doing this!
I love my last name. I would hate to give it up for any reason.
Ask your wedding officiant for advice. If she/he is not religious, she has dealt with this many, many, many times.
If religious, then phone a couple of officiants of gay weddings in gay-marriage-legal states. They deal with this constantly!!!
Congrats to you for finding such a great guy!
I agree, what a sweet fiance you have. :)
My fiance offered to do that for me because I'm the last in our family name line, but I just adore his name and wouldn't want him to give it up. I'm taking his last name, and my last name will be my middle name.
wow, never in a day will my FI ever take my last name, my father past when i was a baby, so it took me a while to actually keep my last name as my middle, his last name is too plain, men are so anal about carrying on the family name
I wish my FI would do this but he won't and cant...He has a family name..He was named after his father and grandfather....so our future son will be the IV...
We're combining last names. Blended family, so it works best for us. We're going to put a hypen between the two names. Only debate going on now is which name goes first. Mine or his? We're both pushing for our own names to go first. I'm just being stubborn now because I don't have MY RING!!! LOL!!
I think this is great your FI is doing this. My FI is too traditional to do this and hadn't even thought about it until I brought it up a couple of months ago. I'm going to take his name and make my maiden my new middle but would also like for him to take my maiden as his new middle.
I once made a joke that my FI would be taking my last name in front of his dad and FFIL's eye popped out of his head.
We also joke that we will combine last names to make a totally new last name because we have pretty funny options we'd either be the Lehds (pronounced Laid) or the Boymans.
Wow, how cool! I'd still announce Mr. and Mrs. Hisfirst and Yourfirst Yourlast rather than announce you first... it doesn't matter whose name you're taking; nobody really says Mrs. and Mr. :)
@MissHelen - my FI has a similar upbringing and his father wasn't around for most of his life and he doesn't like to be associated with that last name and he thought of changing it but I told him he can make a name for himself and that we are in control of our futures and starting our own traditions and families. I'm excited to to take his last name to be honest 
I guess if people know he is taking your last name, why not announce it that way? I think it is great he is doing that btw
My fiance is taking my name too. He doesn't want to pass it on because his father abonded their family and he adores my family. My family isn't really supportive about it as it's not traditional, but it's what we're doing regardless. When we're announced we plan to be announced as Mr&Mrs. His first My last and Mr. &Mrs. His first & My first My last. It's nice to know I'm not alone! Congratulations!
I love my last name too... but I think as an ode to tradition, my family and close friends are very into the bride taking the groom's name... I come from a Christian background and we believe in the christ-like values of submission (not OBEYING the husband's every whim, more like trusting him to make the right decisions for your life), and people have told us it's compromising using the girls last name? Idk how I feel about that, but I do see where they're coming from.
I will miss my last name though.
It had never even occured to me that it's a little sexist that we always say Mr. and Mrs. Ha!
I'd probably go with the standard Mr. and Mrs. because he's already taking your name so that's nice and fair. But now it makes me think that it'd be cute if ladies who were giving up their name got announced as Mrs and Mr. Ladies first, right? :D
That's really sweet! I'd have them announce Mr. and Mrs., unless you feel strongly the other way (and your FI agrees.)
My hubby wants to take my last name (though we're both lazy and there's a chance we'll never get around to it, lol). I assume we'll just be announced as Jane and John Smith, while we both vote republican regularly, we are pretty progressive and non-traditional and don't care much for formalities. Your wedding is supposed to be about you and your husband and you should do what makes you comfortable!
my FI is thinking about taking my last name because it's more unique than his, and plus he has his mom's last name, not his dad's...he isn't 100% committed yet but I think I like the idea. Plus my father only had me and my sister, no boys, so we are the last of our family name.
@kkish3: Same here, my parents had three daughters, we have no male cousin on my dad's side. I really want to keep my last name but my FI isn't so happy about it. But I still have a few months to talk him into it!!
@sept201982: well good luck! let him know that there are other men out there who do it with pride ;)
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Hi Bees,
Pretty soon after we were engaged (and actually before that...) my FI and I decided that he would take my name after our marriage. He's only met his father a handful of times and doesn't want to carry on the name, and he really likes my family.
I think it's quite neat as does the rest of my kin.
It's small, but I was thinking today of how our officiant will announce us. At first I was thinking "Mr. and Mrs. Hisfirst and Myfirst Mylastname". But since he's taking my name, should my first name be announced first?
Has anyone else done this?