My fiance wants an "Engagement" ring…anyone else?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

wifetobee63:  yep! My FI told me before we got engaged that he wanted an engagement ring. He didn’t understand why I got to show I was taken, but he didn’t. He LOVES his engagement ring, its a tugsten ring. He will use it as his “stunt” ring after the wedding. People always get confused and ask if we’re already married, but it really doesnt bother us. I think it is sweet that your FI wanted an engagement ring 🙂

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

DH also wanted an engagement ring. I got him a tungsten Lord of the Rings ring. Since getting married he wears it as a RHR. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yep! My DH asked for an engagement ring so we picked one out together. He said he also wanted to wear an outward symbol of our engagement like me. 🙂 so sweet. I think it’s becoming more common!

Post # 5
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Helper bee

My FI didn’t ask for anything, but I had brought up the idea of giving him a watch in return when we were discussing getting engaged.  About a month after he surprised me with my ring, I got to surprise him with his watch.  Obviously it’s not a recognized symbol of a commitment to the outside world, but he did make a point of showing it off to all his friends, and it’s a nice thing for us both to know why he’s wearing it.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

 

wifetobee63:  This made me LOL. Cute idea though 🙂 My Father actually wanted an engagement ring from my “step-mom”. They never actually got married 10 years later. They are still fiance’s except they call themselves husband and wife. He got this ellaborate large 3 emerald cut stones (2 diamond and 1 ruby, all 1 carat plus lol). So after that I always laugh when I hear guys wanting engagment rings. Not judging just thinking of my father’s ridiculous ring…

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

wifetobee63:  my fiance has one. It started as a bit of a joke when we were shopping for my ring when he said ‘so do I get a ring too?’ After that we spoke about it a bit and he said that he wanted one, nothing too expensive but just something to show that he was taken. So I bought one and surprised him with it when he proposed to me. I think it’s cute the way we would say ‘we are engaged’ and both hold out our hands to show off our rings 🙂

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My FI never would of worn an engagment ring as it’s not traditional but I do feel that if it was he would of happily worn one.  He works in an almost-all-male office, but when he traveled before we were married he had mentioned that he wished he had one.  Not that he was getting hit on or anything, but mostly becuase I think it made him feel connected.

He likes to match me, so I actually now only wear my wedding band and not my engagment ring.  We got a small one for that reason.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yeah, I got hubby one after we had been engaged for a while. It was a surprise present when he went away with work for quite along time. He loved it and now he uses it as his wedding band.  

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

wifetobee63:  my FI hasn’t asked for one in particular, but a lot of my friends have them. In their culture it is very common to have a male engagement ring. In fact, the engagement is pre-planned by both families and they have an engagement ceremony where they both exchange rings. I went to one recently and thought it was very cool!

Post # 11
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Busy bee

 

wifetobee63:  I’m actually using my e-ring as a wedding band rather than buying a second ring, and my FI mentioned that he’s jealous that I get to wear my “wedding ring” almost a whole year before the actual wedding. I suggested that we could go get his wedding band and he could wear it, too, but he declined. (I think he would really like to, but is afraid of breaking tradition, so he won’t)

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

LadyH:  since it’s common in your culture, is there a ‘type’ or something specific that allows someone to be able to tell if the man is married or just engaged. For example: ‘typically’ (not always) for a female, anengagement ring & wedding band are 2 different styles of rings. The engagement ring is usually decorative & the wedding ring is a band.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

wifetobee63:  Yes! My FI gave me my e-ring and then I bought and gave him his wedding band. He wears it now just like I wear my e-ring. He doesn’t want a second wedding band, so his is kind of a combo e-ring and wedding band. 

I always thought it was weird how girls get an engagement ring and guys don’t, never seemed fair to me. We’re a pretty equal rights kind of couple. 

We also both wore bands on our right hands before getting engaged as “committment” rings, kind of like promise rings. So it would have seemed kind of weird for him to not wear a ring now that we’re engaged. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

wifetobee63:  I see plenty of men who I know are not married- but I know they are in a relatinship- wear rings on thier ring fingers.  There are lots of guys who just don’t care- but I don’t think your FI’s request is abnormal by any means!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

When I got my promise ring, FI wanted one too. After we got engaged I got him a new one and he loves it even more than the first! I think it’s really sweet for them to want to show their commitment!

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