Post # 1
I think it’s sooooo absurd! The moms both wore light beige, an aunt wore light beige, the brides dress was an ivory/beige color, and the brides maid dresses were als beige.
I don’t understand how they all wore an light beige/ ivory. It’s sooo weird. I really want to tell them to not do that at mine
Post # 3
Hmm, if the bride and bridesmaids wore a light beige color, could it be the bride wanted the mothers in the same color??? Aunt?- I don’t know, maybe these all were ladies she wanted to honor in some way? It seems so weird that so many people very close to the bride wore very similar colors. These gals had to have known what they were doing.
Post # 4
Hmmmmmm. I guess if the bridesmaids dresses were beige, then the bride really didn’t care!
If your dress is going to be an offwhite color (like an ivory or champagne color) then just tell your FMIL (or have your fiance tell her) that you would like to show her the color of your dress so that she doesn’t get something that clashes with it. Meaning, lets say your dress is a warm champagne color, she might not want to get a cool ivory toned dress. Don’t tell her what she can and cannot wear– instead phrase it so that you want to work with her on the color of her dress. Then, in conversation, you can casually mention how you dont’ want everyone to be in beige.
Also, can you talk to your mom openly about this? If so, have her set the standard, by getting a darker (or colored) dress. And then you can bring up your mom’s dress to your FMIL… you could always say "My mom ended up getting a deep blue dress. She was looking at a few light colored ones, but it was hard to make it match well with my dress, and she didn’t want to be in a light ivory colored dress since my dress is light ivory. The blue looks great on her!"
Post # 5
Good idea. I will have this conversation! I just didn’t know how to phrase it.
Post # 6
Maybe the bride asked them to? I’m one of the "doesn’t matter what color guests wear, you’re the bride" people, so I would let it go. What’s the chance that they’re all going to wear the same dresses again anyway?
Post # 7
My mom called me to tell me that she read in a magazine about wedding etiquette and how women on the grooms side should wear beige. This isn’t the case since it’s the bride’s side though.
It sounds like the bride wanted everyone to coordinate though. My aunt called to ask me what color she should wear so she can match our wedding party, and my mom was concerned with matching too. I didn’t want too much matchy matchy…the wedding party wears the colors and everyone else doesn’t. Plus, my BM dresses are champagne pink. Good luck everyone else! haha
Post # 8
In some Asian cultures, the women on the Brides side do wear white/ivory dresses. I know that several of my aunties and my mother will wear a beige/cream dresses so i don’t mind so much… Just like Beach Bride says, have your fiance tell your fmil that you don’t want them to wear cream. but don’t tell them yourself, it may seem too bridezilla-ish.
Post # 9
Yeah, these are all women who are close to the bride and usually the bride knows (for better or worse) what they’re wearing.
If it was a table full of random guests, that might be a little odd. But for the closest women in her life, it sounds like it might have been planned, or at least "okayed" ahead of time.
Post # 10
I feel like I need to say to all the women, "So, it’s so weird if people wear a color remotely close to the brides dress, I hate that." So that they all get the point.
Post # 11
My mom and FMIL are both wearing beige-ish dresses to my wedding. They both have a lot of details and subtle patterns that set them apart, but I am still concerned that they will be matchy in pictures. They both had a hard time finding anything that looked good on them, but they both love their dresses. I’m going to roll with it and hope for the best!